So how to properly manipulate a man?
Almost all men like to be praised .
Our beloved simply mlejut, if they hear something in an excellent degree about their abilities, external data or successes. Husband made a piece of plywood and hemp heeled garden table? Immediately praise his ingenious and clever mind and urgently set the table for tea drinking. Gave a nice bauble? The greatest romantic at all times! Any, even the most insignificant praise is a positive attitude, stimulating the corresponding male activity. Claims and criticism should also take place, but their ratio with praise should be about 1: 3. And one more little advice - do not forget to praise it publicly, because in this case the effect is three times more.
Men like to be the first in everything.
They like to surpass even in everyday life. Your husband simply at the genetic level needs a conviction that it (he went on vacation, to make repairs ...) it was to him originally occurred. Help him, and he will really turn the mountains for you. "Wow! I have never tasted such a delicious borscht. Dora, have you really prepared this? "" For the first time in my life I see so well-read a man. Have you even read this? "- and when you say this add to your mind more admiration and surprise. In order not to falsify and not to repeat, at times change the "first" to "single". To be always the first and only for any man is so flattering that he is subconsciously drawn to continue to act in the same spirit. This is the easiest way to manipulate a man.
All representatives of the strong half of humanity want to be a real man.
"But a real man will in no way allow his wife to carry heavy bags" - as if by the way you say during a conversation with friends at a common table, while all approvingly nod and agree - after that your spouse is automatically postponed to head phrase: "I must carry the bag myself." Later he will closely monitor this and take away from you everything that can be heavier than one kilogram. For a man at a psychological level, it is important not to drop out of a number of real men, because they are easy enough to pick up on this hook. However, the provisions on the behavior of these men are best betrayed not directly in the eye. Thus, it is much easier for a partner to make certain conclusions within himself and try to adjust his actions to the correct behavior of a real man. And if he by his actions will get to the very point, be sure to praise him, while not skimping on the epithets.
The man especially appreciates his own contributions .
And best of all, if they are material. Do you want your spouse to appreciate you more? Then try to make sure that he spends large sums of money on you. Of course, this sounds, to put it mildly, mercantile, but this, alas, is the prose of life - we all live completely in the material world. He does not want to give you presents ? Bring him to the store and loudly so that everyone will hear, say: "That's it about such a bag I have long dreamed of. So you do not bother about what I buy for the New Year, let's buy it now. " Under the attention of women's views, he will not allow himself to refuse. However, do not forget to praise those gifts, which he presents to you himself.
It is very difficult for men to admit their own mistake.
The husband sits behind the wheel, you pass by this pine for the third time, both nerves are at their limit. And at some point you just can not stand it, and trying to talk as calmly as possible, ask him a question that has long ripened in your head: "Maybe we'll stop, will we find out from passers-by where this street is?" And in response you, rather in general, you will hear something annoyed, for example: "Listen, who is driving now - I or you?" It is best in such a situation to remain silent, try to calm him by some phrase. Just try to formulate it so that you can not rephrase it, like: "You do everything wrong. You're a fool".
All men systematically think.
As, for example, there is a kind of algorithm for actions and steps for the computer, and in order to perform some household tasks, you need a clear and understandable instruction. Suppose you send your beloved to the supermarket. And what does he bring to you in the end? Chips with sour cream, smoked meat and cream cake. In every case that you are going to entrust to your loved one, it is desirable to make the correct manipulation, follow approximately such an algorithm: a) explanation of tasks; b) visual demonstration of the whole procedure; c) conducting examinations (and, if necessary, debriefing) and d) sending "for free sailing".
Always a man should consider himself the undisputed winner .
It was he who first saw you, fell in love and brilliantly won. The decision of all arising problems belongs to him. To properly manipulate a man, encourage, love and never take away from him the iron confidence that it is he and only he is a real and undeniable winner. However, it is very important not to bend the stick! Ironically, men are very good at catching the barely noticeable difference between a truly loving but rather demanding woman and one who is always ready to applaud her partner for demonstrating that he has not thrown a stump on an expensive carpet. For the first, the man will do everything to make it good, and the second will simply sit on his neck and use it for his own purposes. And the man will manipulate, not you.
If you use these tips, the result will not be immediate, since every upbringing process needs time and effort. And believe me, it's not so difficult to manipulate a man properly.