Why did it all happen, she asks herself? Probably this is life, constantly testing for strength through its insidious methods. Do not be killed and make attempts to go to the monastery. It is necessary to understand this issue, weigh everything, and, against it! And if absolutely no results, then only in this case, you can try on a monastic cue, though, most likely it will not come to this.
The problem of relations with the former is not always such a problem. Yes Yes! There are many opinions about whether or not it is worth keeping in touch with the ex-boyfriend. We will analyze several everyday situations. For example, under some circumstances a pair was formed. They were friends for a long time, then they began to meet, then they realized that they did not need it further, well, it did not work out, no matter what arguments each of them had for that, they probably just understood that they were different. And by mutual desire parted, without hysterics, quietly, peacefully. Here's the situation when people know what they want and the problem of parting, for them only a meaningful action, allowing you to hiccup your soul mate.
In this form, a good relationship with a former boy can easily grow into friendship, although it is possible that in the future, the spark that has brought them together for the first time can flare up again. Now consider another example, the most common, also somewhere under some circumstances there was another couple, they liked each other, and decided to meet, after a while it turns out that for a guy the girl was just another passion, and exalted feelings it did not work out. But the girl was born exactly the same feeling as love, although perhaps it's not love, but love, which is also very common, but despite this, there are constant tears for an explosion, apathy appears to life, and the whole world becomes gray-brown-raspberry in a box.
In this case, it is strictly forbidden to seek friendship with this guy strictly! And there can be no exceptions! Because even if she becomes a friend to him, then it certainly will not lead to good. Well, how else? A girl in love is ready to do anything for her "prince", and he is unlikely to reciprocate in this, and that's at best! And at worst, just wipe your feet, or lower your maiden dignity below the city sewer, although such "arthropods" are rare, but as they say, aptly. So in this case, the relationship with the ex-boyfriend just needs to wave a handkerchief, can be disposable, and forget it as a terrible dream.
Naturally, it is impossible to fit all discontinued relations into these two examples, each case is deeply individual. But this is not an excuse to get upset. Despite the fact that the cases and different, the principles in them are the same. Do not want to be the third wheel, also called spare (hint is clear?), Leave alone. If you want friendship, well, if you really need it with this person, hold on to a decent level, do not go below the skirting yourself and do not let yourself down! What is not more accessible and independent, you will seem, the more interest you will achieve.
It is necessary to realize the following thing, no matter what the relationship with the former guy, it still remains, and most likely will remain the former! And consequently, you do not need to get hung up, but you need to be able to switch, life unfortunately is not so long to be exchanged for trifles. Not one - so another - "A holy place is never empty!".