The age is considered to be 13-15 years. But each woman by nature is unique, and the body develops according to different time cycles: someone has the first menstruation begins at 10 years, someone at 15. Therefore, you need to orient yourself. Preventive measures should be taken to the doctor after the first menstruation. If something bothers you, you can make an appointment with a gynecologist at any age. In the future, a preventive examination is necessary once a year.
A gynecologist always conducts an examination on a special chair (that is, it is necessary to prepare mentally for what will have to lie on an uncomfortable gynecological chair without underwear). For girls who do not have a sexual life, the examination gives more psychological discomfort than physical - the doctor only examines the surface of intimate places for inflammations and rashes. Sometimes a doctor easily presses on the abdomen to feel the uterus and ovaries. Also, a specialist can test the elasticity of the girl's vagina by inserting a finger through the anus. When examining the norm option is taking the analysis - smear. For this, the gynecologist takes a tool similar to an ear stick on a long leg, and gently sprays the mucous parts of the vagina, then the material is sent to the laboratory. In addition to the examination on the chair, it is necessary to be ready to answer a number of questions. For example, "When did menstruation begin?", "When was the last menstruation?", What excretions are observed from the vagina during the month? " The questions are simple, but it is better to prepare the answers in advance to feel comfortable.
If the girl is having sex
When a girl turns into a woman - this is certainly an important event. Adult life obliges us to be responsible. It is necessary to visit your gynecologist and inform her about the fact of the onset of sexual activity. This is not done for the purpose of controlling or reading notations about morality (believe me, today, when 12-year-old girls are capable of giving birth to a child, no one is surprised by the rupture of the hymen), but with the aim of monitoring the health status. In this case, the doctor will carry out the examination on the chair using a small device - a mirror. It is gently inserted into the vaginal cavity for 2-3 cm and examining the walls, cervix. The procedure is painless, but unpleasant. In the rest, the examination repeats the previous description, with the only difference that more questions will be asked about the number of sexual partners and the means of contraception used.
Is it really necessary?
Even an adult woman with a change of sexual partner is assigned to take tests to ensure hygiene of sexual activity. A common reaction in this case: "My partner is the only one, and he's all right." Unfortunately, there is a possibility of a latent infection, which the young man himself may not know. For example, many men are carriers of the fungi of the genus Candida. They have the presence of foreign microorganisms is not manifested in any way, but the women begin thrush. Therefore, you should think several times before you give up the tests.
Do your parents know everything?
As you know, to hide from the gynecologist the fact of defloration will not work: the rupture of the hymen is visible to the naked eye when viewed. According to the law, a gynecologist has the right to tell the child's parents that the girl has lost her virginity only if she is under 15 years old. If the girl is older, then at the request of the patient her condition is not disclosed to the parents. But if the doctor has doubts about the commission of a violent act on the child (in such situations, children often close themselves and are embarrassed to discuss even the fact of rape), the gynecologist is obliged to communicate with the parents, and also to report their suspicions to the law enforcement bodies.
For a visit, examination, consultation with a gynecologist, permission from the parents is not necessary. The only exception is the abortion, provided that the girl is less than 18 years old. In such cases, permission is required from both parents, otherwise abortion is considered criminal and such actions are prosecuted by law.
Questions mom, who no one to ask
The main question that overcomes every thoughtful parent: so it is necessary to lead a child to a gynecologist?
In connection with the huge number of paid medical centers, it became fashionable to run to the doctor for any reason. This is an extreme, and for the child it does not need anything. We have forgotten that doctors have a preventive task, that is, sometimes they just have to make sure that everything is going well.
Unfortunately, sometimes the preventive examination is not limited to the case. Today, girls often suffer from vulvovaginitis (the inflammatory process, which most often occurs due to the entry of feces into the vagina). Symptoms of this disease are white discharge from the vagina. Sometimes the disease can develop due to the fact that a very small girl has introduced into her vagina a foreign object (a button, a small detail of a toy). On the second place is the rating of childhood diseases - cystitis (instruction "Do not sit in the cold, you'll catch cold there!" - this is about him). Then follows thrush, amenorrhea (absence of the menstrual cycle), painful periods, hormonal failures and cycle failures. And this is not the whole list.
Agree, it is better as a preventive measure to reduce the child once a year for examination, than to fight with such diseases.
Whether to go with the daughter to the gynecologist?
If it is a question of a toddler or a teenager, then a joint campaign is compulsory. Moreover, it is necessary to show by own example that going to the doctor is not always fear, discomfort, painful operations, etc. A female doctor should become a good adviser for a small princess. Therefore, first, make an appointment with a doctor to make sure his sanity and professionalism. Encourage your daughter to love her body. Let her learn to take care of him, take care of her health. If the relationship with the gynecologist is initially based on trust, then in the future there will be no problems for the girl to share her experiences and problems, and the topic is delicate, the first one you will not tell.
If the daughter has already grown up, then do not insist on your presence in the office (especially it concerns the mother-hen, who strive to control all life processes of the child). A girl, albeit small, is already a person and has the right to be treated with respect. You can volunteer to accompany the child to the medical center, but wait in the corridor, do not bother with questions and do not insist on a detailed report. By the way, doctors in this case are guided by the desire of the child - whether he wants to see his mother next to him in the office.
If you really began to torment your doubts about the sexual life of your daughter or she does not behave adequately, you can talk to the doctor one-on-one the next day. But your daughter must understand that the doctor can be trusted. Therefore, show wisdom and do not talk about your conversations with a gynecologist.