But how to keep harmony in marital relations, she does not give us, so let's try to understand ourselves.
We agree at once that we will consider the conditions of harmony only for couples where both partners experience love for each other.
Married and married life is always not easy, both for the groom and the bride, even if there is love and full trust between the spouses. Life, work, time, everything constantly checks them for strength. But still we all know that there are couples who have lived in a relative peace and harmony for many years of married life.
And in most cases, the basis of these marital relations (except for love of course) is mutual respect for each other as a person. And this should not depend on social status, financial status and other qualities. The husband the academician should respect his wife a housewife, and the wife of a business lady should respect her husband, a simple engineer. Only in this case there can be harmony between the spouses.
Another important factor of harmony is the mutual points of contact, and also the points where the interests of the spouses diverge. Note that those points where interests diverge should not be a cornerstone; The differing interests of the spouses should not cause strong antipathy from each other. Common interests as understandably serve to bring together a couple (passion and sex in this case do not fit, as both bring together for a short period), but various that would give people the opportunity to do something themselves, without a spouse. Because even from the closest people sometimes get tired. Also, not an unimportant role, in the conditions of harmony of long relationships is the ability to forgive.
After all, no matter what people are, over the long years of marital relations they will inevitably accumulate small grievances. They are very easy not to notice at the beginning of marital relations, but which can kill any feelings and any harmony after many years. And even more important is the forgiveness of minor shortcomings of each other. For example, the husband constantly forgets to close the toothpaste, and the wife likes to watch those series that her husband does not really like.
In addition to all of the above, you can add that there was harmony in marital relations the same views on the cornerstones of married life are needed.
On such factors as children and family (the desire to have them, how many will they have, life with their parents.), How is work and career (whether a woman should work, what is more important for children or a career, etc.), for household and financial distributes the earnings in the family, who should cook, etc.). To all these questions the spouses should have similar views, otherwise there can be no talk of any harmony.
All of the foregoing suggests that the main condition for the harmony of marital relations is a great deal of work to keep the scales of family tranquility in balance. If both spouses are aware of this and strive to maintain this balance, then this marriage can be one of those happy where the spouses live in harmony for many years. As a rule, most people dream about such relationships.
Here, perhaps, the basic conditions of harmony, but I want to add more. But still, it is not out of place to remind the main and most important condition of harmony in marital relations, this is certainly love. As they say, without it anywhere. And all other conditions work only in the presence of love between spouses.