Perhaps your boss has a loud voice, but he also loves to talk, and to shout, that is, to convey to him his point of view is unrealistic. You constantly have to stop talking, blushing with indignation. Maybe, you should not pay attention to such people at all, just ignore them or pretend that you are listening to music? And when the unpleasant boss will start a conversation, try to hustle you or find out, then politely send him, saying that you have a lot to do and you need to work. Many people, not having "points of contact" with the boss, as a result are left without work, they are fired.
If you do not want to lose your job because of a difficult boss, then use the following tips, thanks to which you can not only establish a relationship with a difficult person, but also be able to change your attitude towards him at the internal level.
Look deeper
Matt Brown, director of the consulting company YSC said that people come to the organization not in order to spoil your life and perform your work poorly. Try to understand what is the root of the problem. That is, understand why the person does this, what motivates him, why he is losing his temper.
Start thinking differently
If you, starting to talk with a person, already treat Knome as an unpleasant and difficult interlocutor, then the conversation may immediately get unsettled - you create tension yourself, but this is completely out of the question. Many general directors advise to change your angle of view. Perhaps your boss is not a difficult person, he just does not look like you.
Change your actions
If we can not find a common language with a difficult colleague, then it will be easier to achieve his disposition and understanding, concentrating on what he needs from you. Of course, you can think: "Why should I change because of other people, because the problem is not there?" But think about the fact that you can not provide your boss with any problems, but he seems to you to be a problem that needs to be solved, and that this achieve, act, you - your boss is happy with everything. You must come up with the most effective way to establish contact and take full responsibility for it. Perhaps the problem is that you drive wrongly, check your views and start acting differently.
Do not delay the solution of the problem
Understand that the longer you delay the decision of this task, the more it becomes, and soon you will turn into a big claim to your boss and the problem will be more difficult to solve. To put all the points above the "and" is sometimes not enough for one conversation. Matt Browne, that you first need to understand the essence of the problem, if you have a conflict with a person above you.
Communicate at their level
Vosnovnom in difficult situations, people begin to solve the problem of conventional communication models, with the situation just getting hot. It will be better if you understand how your style of communication differs from your boss's communication style, and try to talk "in his language".
If you have to tell the boss the bad news - get ready for the worst
If you have uneasy relations with your boss, then it's very difficult to report bad news, and you do not want to. But those negative side effects that you will encounter after this can be smoothed out by the directness of their actions. Do not think about your emotions, concentrate on the main thing.
Do not encourage bad behavior
Do not solve the problems of your boss, otherwise you will have to do it again every time again. If people try to attract your attention through arguments, then do not let them do it. Even if you win in a dispute, you will lose the battle anyway.
Be clear and consistent
If you do not like the way a person behaves, tell him about it and point out that it is he who should change. If the boss continues to behave badly, tell him at once, and directly - do not wait for the next official audience.
Do not pay attention to methods, focus on the goal
Sometimes the problem arises or the expert does not go away, when you think too long about the ways to solve it, not about the neyasama. You for yourself should clearly present what you need to achieve. Concentrate on the very purpose of the conversation, ana on everything goes well and your "took".
There are things that are not amenable to correction
Psychologists say that a person can behave in this way, because this firm or organization does not suit him. Maybe it will be easier for you to change the terms of the contract or, in general, to resign - to refuse his services. There are such situations, for example, when a person shows aggression and can not cope with it at all. And the solution here is only one thing - if it is in your competence, then fire a colleague or resign yourself.
Fall in Love!
Many psychologists say that there is another wonderful and last way to solve the problem - to get on with the boss. If it's difficult to communicate with a person, then you just have to fall in love with him, and it's not difficult at all, because every person has not only bad qualities, but also good ones. Appreciate the person, considering all his qualities, and understand that he is still amazing and extraordinary. Whenever we are in love, then all the difficulties are on our side, moreover, you do not notice them. Every moment of communication becomes desirable and brings pleasure, and when a person notices what brings you happiness, he himself starts to change for the better!