Naturally, if a young woman does not have the first young man, she will compare it with the previous ones. It does not matter in whose favor the comparison will be, the main thing is not to tell this beloved person about it, it can offend him and offend him. It's only possible to speak directly about the fact that the past relations suited you more, about the advantages of the ex-boyfriend, when you realize that this is not a hero of your novel and you will not succeed with it. This, perhaps, is the only way that exactly guarantees parting. Comparison is not in his favor, offends a man, and he will not stand it. Any mention of former partners should be avoided, even if they are in a negative form. This can cause the suspicion of the man that you still remember this person. The imagination of men can draw terrible pictures, sometimes worse than a woman's. Your today's young man can start to think that he is only a "wedge that the old was beaten out", that "you will also throw him" and the like. So, no stories, memories and references to past men!
Interest in a man's past life is understandable and justified, but it's not worth crossing the boundaries and starting to compare yourself with the ex-girlfriend and draw conclusions that are incorrect. If she is tall blonde with big breasts, and you are a short redhead thin, that does not mean that she likes the man more. He is with you now! And not with her. Appearance - it's fine, but for life you need absolutely different women. If your young man constantly calls up and rewrites with the former, do not make hasty conclusions and arrange hysterics on level ground. You need to be wiser and calm about the past that passed, there was nothing left. Constant interrogations and inquiries about the past will force a man to hide even the most innocent and cute details from his past life. Imagine what will happen if you learn about them? You decide that the man lied to you and cheated that he feels feelings for the former girl. But in fact, you yourself are to blame for the fact that he began to hide everything from you. Do not make an interrogation about your man's past life! It's in the past and it does not matter!
In mutual respect, mutual respect and trust are very important. Before reading the letter, get into the pocket, get the phone and other intrusion into the personal life of the man, sit down and think. Are you ready to know the whole truth? Would you be pleased if your young man reached out to your e-mail box, to your purse in the phone? In a state of jealousy, even an innocuous SMS can be perceived on the other hand, which will lead to scandal and disassembly, especially if it is a message from a former girl with whom your man is currently working or just friends. Create yourself an attitude that if a man is with you and loves you, then he will not lie and deceive you. Of course, it's hard to be wise when emotions go off scale, but it's all about training and experience. Love does not allow checks!
Do not talk much about the past, but rather, do not talk at all? Why provoke a man to tell a story about past relationships, especially if you know that you will be hurt and unpleasant? Having discussed and once told about the past, it's worth to permanently remove this topic in a remote box and never get it from there. Do not make a man compare you and the ex-girlfriend in bed, by nature, by the skill of cooking and cleaning, by success at work and so on. Why do you need it? Learning that you are worse than the former, you will experience feelings of resentment, irritation and anger, your conversation risks ending in a quarrel. Remember that if your man wanted to be with a former girlfriend, he would not be sitting next to you now.
Know how to distinguish between past and present. Let past relationships, events, emotions and experiences remain in the past. If your man is still writing sms-ki first love and subscribes to "your baby, I kiss", it means nothing! It only says that people have warm and pleasant memories in the past, which have nothing to do with the present, and, especially, the future. Once a man is next to you, then he loves you and he is happy with everything, he will never return to the past, because he probably already had such opportunities before.