But it happens, and the first factor that affects family relationships and the future of all members of this family is the presence or absence of violence.
Domestic violence is a large, extensive and overcrowded topic of controversy and research. Unfortunately, the tablet has not been invented from excessive aggression and incontinence, therefore many women, children, less often men, daily have to become victims of cruel and ill-considered actions of their relatives. It is generally accepted that usually the cause of violence is the absence, or very vague concept of the boundaries and roles of all family members.
There are several types of violence: psychological, physical and sexual. Victims are the weakest members of the family, and the aggressors and rapists are strong, feeling superior. Therefore, most often men turn into violent men, towards children and women, or a woman towards a child, less often to a man. There are also cases of aggression and violence by a child against their parents, but this usually happens at an older age of the child, when the parents are already elderly, and can not protect themselves.
If you commit an act of violence, especially when it is done by one of the parents in relation to the second spouse and / or child, no one thinks how the violence in the family affects the further crime of adolescents.
Violence is a fact.
If you take into account the statistics, the figures that can be seen, paying attention to the increase in the level of violence, many can be overwhelming. The root cause of any action on the part of the rapist is an unrestrained expression of aggression.
The concept of aggression is usually defined as destructive and purposeful behavior that does not comply with rules and norms that are dictated by society and law and relate to the coexistence of people. Also, aggression is considered to be an injurious act, to the objects on which an attack is committed, with possible physical, damage, and physiological discomfort. The very concept of domestic violence, as well as cruelty, is considered narrower, and enters into the general concept of aggression. The main manifestation of cruelty is indifference to the suffering of others, as well as the desire to cause suffering and pain to someone, and cause depression and depression.
In carrying out an act of violence, in whatever form it appears, a person who has become an actor usually passes the limits of what is permitted, both by social burdens, and by the norms established by law. Thus, those who do not feel the concept of permissiveness are more likely to become rapists, and are accustomed to assert their opinion with the help of physical force, or any other kind of aggression.
The purpose of the rapist is to establish control over his potential or existing victim, by any means.
Prevention.
The presence of violence in the family is not a disease, but it happens that the prevention of violence is simply necessary. For a married couple, where one of the spouses sometimes shows certain signs of aggressive behavior, the first thing to be established is clear rules, especially in dealing with conflict situations. Such rules should become mandatory for execution, and at the same time do not allow the possibility of manifestation of aggression in the process of resolving any issue.
Particular attention should be paid to the partner's behavior not only in his relations, but also in all aspects of the life of the person. Since if a spouse or spouse easily shows signs of aggression in other spheres of her life activity, sooner or later, the same methods can be applied in family life. Therefore, depending on the complexity of the situation, and the leash of a person outside your society, you should reassess the values, taking into account the opportunities for the future, and decide whether you can be with that person or not.
If the child suffers.
The first thing that parents need to do to protect the child from the possibility of violence against him is to inform him about them. Do not be afraid to tell the child about possible situations that you hope will not happen in his life, but still. Even if the fact of violence in the family, and the rapist becomes a father, or a mother - a child should know that he is not at fault, and understand how to act in such situations. Many believe that talking with a child on such topics means intimidating him. Of course, the fact of fear will be present, but in this case, fear will be a positive moment. After all, because of the fear of something and the ability to feel danger, we have the instinct of self-preservation.
Explain to the child that you can not talk to strangers, go with them, if they call somewhere, let alone touch them. If the child has difficulties in communicating with the team, he comes beaten, you learned that they are being laughed at or mocked - be sure to intervene. You can even do it in secret from the child. But you have to find out what is the reason and make every effort to eliminate it, even if it contradicts some of your principles.
Remember that the impact of violence, can determine the fate of the child, and the manner of his behavior, that the possibility of juvenile delinquency is not ruled out.
Crime.
A lot of studies have confirmed that the negative impact on children is provided not only by participation, but also by the observation of violence. Especially if it's domestic violence. Observation of the fact of violent actions forms the child's concept in the norm of communication with others and the resolution of conflict situations. What in the future can appear, in childhood - in the qualities of an offender, in adolescence - a criminal.
Particular danger is borne by people, including children, who belong to the so-called risk group. These people include those who in childhood observed or suffered from violence, in any of its manifestations, if a person has a genetic predisposition, or a mental disorder and imbalance. This is especially pronounced in adolescence. Special signs of risk are: the use of alcohol, drugs, dependence on the group (company, team), early and possibly involuntary initiation of sexual activity, physical violence, observation of violence in the family or acceptance of participation in it - all this becomes factors provoking the development of aggression. Usually such factors become the main ones in the process of influencing the further juvenile delinquency.