Very often you can see on the street, in a store or a children's polyclinic, as a mother punishes a child physically for the slightest fault. And, what we see on the street can be called a small fraction. If parents raise their hands on the child with strangers, then what is going on at home? Why do parents beat a child, instead of talking to him and explaining what is good, and what is bad?
Parents are ideal for the child, so that they do not. Of course, then the child "opens his eyes" to the parents, but, as a rule, it's too late and the child has already adopted the behavior pattern. It is normal for him, when the strong offend the weak. This behavior he saw at home and growing up, takes this model on himself. Everyone should think about it, but do parents have the right to beat children and why do they do it?
A child who is regularly punished using a home strap will behave aggressively in the street, in a kindergarten and school. He does not understand why it is bad to beat a kid, but he is beaten.
Parents need to understand that they do not have the right to beat a child, and in general to beat someone's last thing.
It looks especially strange when they hit a very small child. Dirty his pants? Get a belt! Is the dirty clothes worth the child's tears? There is no difficulty in throwing dirty things into the stylalka and continue to do their own business. Spilled at dinner compote, fallen bread for many mothers becomes the reason for beating a child. No, of course, no one has yet said about the beating in its pure form, that is, to the blood, but a slap in the face, a blow to the lips, or hands can also be called a beating, because this causes the child physical pain.
For girls, physical punishment is fraught with in childhood by the fact that they later subconsciously choose their husbands for a person who will treat them with physical force. So the human psyche is arranged, that the family model is laid in early childhood. It turns out that parents by their actions program the girl's life and directly affect the choice of a potential partner.
To beat a child is to prove one's weakness, to prove that the parents did not take place, could not cope.
The child perceives punishment as humiliation. He is ashamed, uncomfortable, but he can not do anything about this situation. Later, growing up, he begins to hate his parents. The child does not want to return home, because the deuce in the diary is an excuse for humiliation. What's next? Escape from home, street company and disregard for parents, because they will still beat, so what difference does it make ...
Getting used to constant punishments, the child ceases to feel pain and he seems to simply abandon it. All that parents will achieve is their own hatred towards themselves in adolescence. And the age of 13-16 years is fraught with difficulties, at this time it is better to keep the child under control, but not with a belt, but just with friendly tips and tips. You need to be a child friend.
In order not to lose the child's confidence, it is necessary to stop grabbing the belt. Problems solved by talking and explaining. And do not say that the child does not understand the words. He understands. Simply you did not explain in words. Talk with the baby is necessary as soon as it was brought from the hospital, it is important that the little man understands the words of his parents, delved into them. So it will be a little more than a year later, you do not have to grab the belt. Because parents do not have the right to beat their children.