Well, if you inherited your confidence in the genes. It's great when our self-esteem is reinforced by parents, teachers and friends. And what if someone did not have such luck? If a woman has always been criticized since her childhood, even humiliated? Does this mean that it is forever doomed to be inconspicuous, closed and eternally complex? Not at all! Learn not to be a gray mouse you can! And even necessary.
Dress up!
Whether we like it or not, people judge us by appearance. So you just can not avoid going to the store for a new wardrobe. A woman who is dressed according to fashion, who pays attention to others, automatically feels self-confidence. Truly, they meet on clothes, evaluate too, and therefore changing this point will bring something new into your life.
Of course, any clothing you need to be able to wear. And if you are not accustomed to dresses or high heels, then you will need practice. But the good gets used quickly. The main thing - caring for appearance strengthens self-esteem, asserts us in the thought that we are attractive. And then you will become less afraid of criticism. It's not about growing your vanity, but about finding your own style, the most suitable for your personality.
Watch your posture!
Our grandmothers were right, exhorting us from childhood: "Straighten up! ". People who are able to hold their heads high in any situation and look far ahead simply can not be ordinary. They always receive from life what they want and achieve success in everything. Going out into the street, straighten your shoulders and lift your head. Walk calmly, without jerks, do not rush. Do not be surprised if people start paying attention to you, and men will smile at you. Just smile back. This, too, can add confidence.
Start playing sports. Physical exercises give a lot of energy, improve the appearance. It gives the feeling that you are doing something for yourself. Remember, however, that you can not rid yourself of the inner complexes of exercise! No, exercises will not help, especially if they do not give you pleasure. Choose what's best for you. If you like swimming, make a note in the pool. If you prefer aerobics - there are many fitness clubs.
Several times a day, take time for breathing exercises. Stay outdoors longer, use breathing diaphragm. Let each breath be as deep as possible not only by raising the breast, but also at the expense of the abdomen. You can do this exercise while lying, standing and even while walking. Deep diaphragmatic breathing calms, heals and gives strength. It makes you feel light and relaxed. And then you start to walk differently - smoothly and sexually.
Think Positively
Stand in front of the mirror and look at your reflection with kindness. Find something that could really please you in yourself. Beautiful hair, smile, wise look. Yes! To increase self-esteem, the power of positive thinking is important. Always pay attention to the good sides - your character, your mind, your ability to see the beautiful. You are unique! It's worth proving to yourself every day.
Do not focus only on yourself, however, recognize the advantages of other people and tell them about them. Go forward and try to see in people what is best in them. And then it will be easier for you to see the good sides in yourself, not to be gray and inconspicuous, undeservedly forgotten by everyone.
Discard fears
Instead of puzzling over where you can get self-confidence, start acting like a person who knows the meaning of the word "confidence." Match your fears, limitations. This is a good way to immediately improve self-esteem. You do not need to jump with a parachute right away, just be more loved by yourself.
Start with trivialities. For example, try to smile to passers-by on the street. Then you can move on to a more complex task. Afraid to meet new people? Do not avoid noisy companies. You will see that only in the beginning there is restraint, and then after each subsequent greeting, fear becomes less. And what was very difficult, it will become easier, and finally, very easy.
Accept praise
It is amazing. But we do not know how to react adequately to compliments. When we are told how beautiful we look, we feel embarrassed. Those who do not interfere with adding charm and confidence, the reaction is generally panic. Immediately start embarrassed phrases like: "Come on ... This is an old blouse ... This bag a hundred years ..." So do not! It kills a confident woman in you.
In response to a compliment, it's better just to smile. Keep silent. Let others see that their reaction is not new to you. Especially if praise comes from a man.