It depends on what type of people you and your lover belong to?
You have a strong mutual love, or you are just a kept woman.
The first case.
If you and your chosen one belong to a balanced temperament.
You are both responsible, and treat those people who do not avenge each other after a break in their relationship. and who, after a break in relations, can remain friends.
You just need to meet in a friendly atmosphere, for example in a candlelit restaurant, and discuss this issue together. The question will be settled, I'm sure. If your lover loves and respects you, he will understand you and everything will be fine. In addition, it is not yet known how your life will develop in the future, and good friends are not scattered. Keep a good relationship and after breaking your relationship.
The second case.
If your chosen one is balanced, and you belong to an emotional, not balanced temperament. (your lover is under your heel)
Then you have nothing to worry about. Rather, you need to watch your lover.
Let him think about the consequences. And you just need to relax and fully enjoy life in all its manifestations.
The third case.
You are balanced, and your chosen one refers to an emotional, not balanced temperament.
If your lover is an emotional person, and even worse if he has sadistic and despotic habits, or if he refers to people who do not forgive and are very vindictive. Here you need to act very carefully, and without consulting a psychologist can not do. And even better with such people do not start a relationship. As my friend says: " When you choose your chosen one, choose such that you can disperse with him in a human way." If one can not disperse with a chosen one humanly, then it will not be possible to build relations either . "
It is possible that you will have to confess to your husband, or be gay to what the husband himself finds out.
If a lover learns of a break in relations, sometimes his darling recognizes him quite the other side. She will see a completely different person, who is completely different from the former, sweet, beloved, sexy. Now he becomes a tyrant.
The fourth case.
You and your lover belong to an emotional, not balanced temperament (as the proverb says, it found a scythe on a stone).
You are both very quick-tempered, like extreme things, and even extreme sex.
Maybe it will be another extreme case. Maybe this is just what you are looking for.
Before taking this step, you need to weigh everything well, and understand who you need, a husband or lover, or both. But you need to remember the proverb: " After two hares you will run, you will not catch a single one ".
When you understand who you need, then act.
In general, my opinion: " Family and children - above all! "
If you decide to quickly and nicely part with your lover, you must also take into account his condition and position. Did you decide to part with him because he might get sick, or was ruined? Then, it's not fair on your part. He was a close person to you. Wait a bit, maybe he needs help, then tear up your relationship.
If you and your lover were because of the love for him, this is understandable.
If you throw a lover because he has material difficulties, then you are wrong, because nothing is permanent in life. And who is today a poor man, tomorrow may be rich. Therefore, before deciding to quickly part with your lover, you need to think in the long run.