The second child: is it necessary?

Now more and more families are inclined to the fact that in a family it is not bad to have 2 children or more. But many are afraid to have a second baby, there are a lot of reasons for this. Really, are there any advantages in re-parenting? Is there at least one reason for repeating this experience again?


What awaits you during your second pregnancy?
As a rule, the second pregnancy is easier than the first, if there are no complications and exacerbations of chronic diseases. If the first time you notice an enlarged tummy only on the 4th month, then the second time the pregnancy will become noticeable earlier. In addition, you will feel the baby moving before. This is because the second time you can more easily distinguish the child's tremors from gases or other processes in the intestine.
The abdomen during the second pregnancy is more often located below. But in this there are pluses - the tummy will less interfere, there will be less stress on the stomach and, as a consequence, digestive problems will decrease. If in the first pregnancy you might have stomach pains, gas and constipation, the second time it may not be.
The second birth often passes faster than the first, and this is also good news. Therefore, if your first pregnancy and childbirth left not too good impression, do not worry, the second time everything can go much easier.
Better is the psychological state of the mother who is bearing the second child. Now you already know what to expect from the body, what procedures will be assigned to you, what to do in this or that case, and fears and worries will be much less.

The senior child.
Parents refuse birth of subsequent children, explaining that the already existing child will be jealous. Of course, it will be, the kid is used to your attention and will not want to just give up his position.
But pregnancy takes a long time. During this time, you will be able to prepare the first child for the appearance of a brother or sister, to prove your unconditional love, to calm his fears and to tell about the pros that await him with the appearance of a brother or sister.
Do not promise too much to the child. Do not be reassured that you will bring a companion from the hospital for games - a baby is hardly a good company for an older child. But tell your first-born how he can educate a brother or a sister, show him toys, teach to hold a rattle, sit, crawl, walk. Eventually, the time will come to the first words that the older child can also teach.
If you manage not to provoke jealousy, to divide your attention equally, then it is unlikely that the first child will not be happy to be added to the family. In addition, the two of us are always more cheerful!

Financial issue.
Paradoxically, the second child is much cheaper than the first. Despite the fact that many parents think that spending will increase, in fact, their increase is often not so significant.
First of all, some completely tolerable things and toys are probably left from the first child or have your friends and relatives. Secondly, you already know for sure that the child does not need 10 different caps and 40 blouses, but much more simple diapers and ryazhonki with sliders. Thirdly, in your house already there is a sufficient number of toys that are suitable for the baby. In addition, many things you will definitely give. A breastfeeding will greatly facilitate your life.

Psychological aspect.
Many mothers are afraid of an extra burden that will fall on their shoulders with the appearance of a second baby. Actually, it is not as great as it seems. Firstly, you already have a sufficiently independent child who can somehow serve himself and even help you. Secondly, you will feel more confident, you already know what to do with children, when they cry, how to calm, than to occupy and how to treat. Thirdly, many household chores, especially daily washing, are now easily entrusted to smart home appliances. Various combines, blenders, microwaves, vacuum cleaners can greatly facilitate the life of any mother.

Apparently, the appearance of the second child is not so much scary as it seems at first glance. Over time, he will grow up, and your children will be able to play with each other, occupy themselves, and you will have more free time and 2 times more love. How to know, maybe after some time, you will think about the third.