IV trimester of pregnancy
The first three months of a newborn's life are called the fourth trimester of pregnancy. A baby from a cramped and cozy womb falls into a big world. And he needs time to get used to it. There is a theory that colic in babies is a sign of their psychological adaptation in new conditions. It's scary for a little one to remain alone and not feel native heat! He does not yet know how to express his feelings except how to cry inconsolably ... Therefore, the fourth trimester assumes constant contact of the baby with the mother's body. And the phrase: "Do not teach the child to the hands" in this context sounds even cruel. How can you deprive a child of what before his birth was his whole life? He was used to Mom's steps, her movements, her smell ... And to constant dimensional rocking. Uterus is the first baby cradle. That's why he does not want to fall asleep without his mother's close embrace. A young woman on breastfeeding can fall asleep without releasing a nipple from her mouth. Well, the artificial guy has to shake a little, so that he feels safe. Sucking, like wearing a baby on his hands, means not indulging his whims and manipulations, but satisfying one of the basic needs of a little child in the first three months of his life. In addition, in the communication of mother and child there must be moments when they experience the same sensations. Then the maternal instinct is strengthened. During breastfeeding, mom and baby are related by one emotion. This does not happen if the baby drinks the mixture from the bottle. And then it is the motion sickness that causes mom and baby to be in the same state of half-drowsiness ... By the way, many children on breastfeeding have periods when they fall asleep only during the wiggle. Nature! But the question is, whether the crumb will not get used to motion sickness, remains. Well, the practice shows that the children themselves abandon their favorite ritual as their nervous system matures. Most often about a year. Well, before the onset of such a time, motion sickness even helps this very nervous system to mature and grow stronger.
• Our body lives according to the laws of rhythm. At regular intervals, the heart beats, change one phase of sleep. And it is the motion sickness that helps the child to adjust the rhythm, synchronize the brain's biorhythms with the work of internal organs. Overexcited baby can wake up after 20 minutes, and this means that he did not reach the phase of deep sleep. And motion sickness affects the semicircular canals in the brain, helping the crumb to sleep soundly.
• Measured shaking trains spatial coordination and develops the infant's vestibular apparatus. To some extent, it even prepares a baby for independent walking.
• At the hands of an adult, the baby feels protected from a world that is alien to him. And without meeting the need for safety, the baby is worse.
Grandmother against ...
The Soviet doctrine read: it is necessary to feed children on a schedule, to take on their hands seldom, to teach them to fall asleep one in a crib, not to rock ... The purpose of these prescriptions was the release of mother's time. The maternity leave lasted 4 months, and then the mother was required to go to work ... And so the kids were taught to "independence." Fortunately, times have changed ... but the stereotypes of the older generation have remained. Do not quarrel with grandmothers, just understand that the established ideas about life are difficult to change. Better explain why the baby is rocking and why it is so important. However, many modern pediatricians sometimes are not advised to pump. What is the reason for this? Doctors monitor the safety of babies. There are cases when children were crying from physical pain, and they were being pumped and shaken ... Therefore, all parents should know under what circumstances the carapace can not be rocked. This is not a way to put the child to bed, by all means. It is necessary to understand that newborns do not cry "out of harm". And if the crumb does not calm down after a few minutes after mom took him in his arms, then he does not want to sleep or swing. Perhaps it's time to feed him or change his diaper ... Any mom knows how to intuitively determine the needs of her child, knows that from the moment of conception, the baby is a person with unique desires and character. And the imposition of his regime on him, the upbringing in the style of "the child must be comfortable" is to some extent violence against the person. So take it as a rule: you do not need to inject a crumb, but to rock, that is, to help him to calm down, and not to silence. Otherwise, motion sickness will bring harm.
Only quietly!
The little one does not need to be shaken, but to feel himself as if in a mother's tummy. And for 9 months, my mother hardly moved so actively that the carapace created a sense of sea-rocking. You can not shake the child intensively, thinking that falling asleep depends on strength and amplitude. Yes, the baby can quickly fall asleep. But this dream is more like a loss of consciousness. Do not carry the baby in a wheelchair on bumpy roads or rubble. Such motion sickness does not help the vestibular apparatus to develop, but overloads it. Sing lullabies or just melodic songs, when you sing baby. Do not hope only for motion sickness as a soothing agent. In addition to the tactile sensations of a crumb, he wants to hear your tender and affectionate voice. So you communicate with him, help him develop speech and thinking. In addition, the texts of folk lullabies contain a message that the children learn unconsciously: "You love and are good, life is beautiful ..." That's why this ritual before going to sleep is simply irreplaceable for a baby.