In which cases should I seek help?
Surely you noticed that asking for help sometimes can cause an active participation in the problems of even someone else's person, and sometimes causes irritation. The thing is that people love to help each other, but they do it more often for their own pleasure than for someone else. Pleasant emotions that arise when a person assists another, can be compared with emotions from creating something important and meaningful. However, when the effort spent on help is too great, pleasure always evaporates. In addition, people do not like outspoken lazy people and reluctantly help those who could do most of the work themselves or at least somehow approach the solution of the problem with their own efforts.
Seek help when you are ready to help yourself.
At whom to ask for help?
Even the simplest request for help does not resonate with all people, and this is perfectly normal. People are very different, they are touched by different things, so the problem of one person can someone seem and not a problem at all, but someone will force to respond.
So, start from what kind of help you need. For example, asking for money from those who are in a situation similar to yours, there is no point. Ask the way for visitors - too. Do not seek advice from those people who are far from your problem.
Algorithm of actions
Imagine a difficult situation: you were alone in an unfamiliar city or your problem is so serious that the efforts of close people are not enough, and a decision is required in a short time. A request for help is the only available option. In order for your response to respond, you need to accurately imagine the order of actions that will cause the greatest response. I must say that scammers and those who want to live at the expense of others, it will be very difficult to convince others in the reality of their problems.
To begin with, it is necessary to determine whether your problem is so great that you need help from strangers. There are people who panic for any reason, which prevents them from getting adequate help when the real trouble comes. Then think about who can help you. For example, often people seek help when they need funds to treat themselves or children. In such cases, people with connections in the health sector and sponsors are needed. To attract attention to your problem, any media - newspapers, the Internet, television - are suitable. If you need help of a different kind, you are looking for it in a place where there are potentially people who are competent in your question - this will increase the chances of success.
It is necessary to be able to clearly and clearly state the essence of the problem. Often trying to describe their situation more fully, people start out in long descriptions of their lives, which distracts attention from the main question. Be extremely specific, even if you just need a lighter. Also, do not forget about the evidence. Now hundreds of scammers play on the feelings of people, because few people believe in advertisements for help. The more serious your problem - the more convincing should be the evidence that you are a real person and that you really need help.
And do not forget that in the first place you must help yourself. Quite reasonably, you may wonder what you yourself have already done in order to change the situation for the better. If it turns out that you just sat there, waiting for a miracle, then it's unlikely that someone will help you.
Above all, do not be shy about asking for help, since in a difficult situation each of us can turn out to be, no one is immune from this. But you yourself do not pass by those who need, because their request for help may be the last chance to survive. Of course, this does not mean that you need to rush to help all dubious personalities, but if you see that a person is in trouble, just do not pass by. Someday, perhaps, you will need someone else's compassion.