Secrets of communication

Not all people with whom we have to communicate in life are not easily contacted. But sometimes very much depends on the ability to find a common language, so that you can neglect the opportunity to negotiate with the right person. Sometimes on the other side of the barricades are our friends and relatives, colleagues, partners, just unfamiliar people, on which our daily life, career or the solution of some issues depends. Some manage to find a common language with everyone, no matter how difficult a person is. But most of us do not always find the right ways to make contact. In fact, there is nothing complicated in communication, and everyone can become a master of persuasion.

Mistrustful pessimist.
With such people it is very difficult to agree even on the simplest and most understandable things. People who are prone to pessimistic views of life, will quickly refuse, than begin to delve into the essence of the matter. But they can be influenced. To do this, you need to convince a person that your proposal has more pluses than minuses. Give clear examples, calmly, but firmly explain your point of view. The more real facts you bring, the sooner you will win the pessimist's confidence.

With all agree!
It would seem that the bad thing is that a person agrees with everything, what would you suggest? They are very convenient to manage and just manipulate. But sometimes there are situations where it is important to know the opinion of the interlocutor. How to achieve from the spineless creature real action, not poddakivaniya? To do this, it is important to focus on the action in a conversation. Take as little time as possible to discuss the nature of the problem, emphasize that timing and real results are important to you. Perhaps, such a trouble-free person will have to be monitored and motivated for further actions, but it is possible to achieve from him the desired.

I will not say anything!
Perhaps, one of the most difficult moments in communication comes when you need to know the concrete decision, and the interlocutor in every possible way evades responsibility and does not say "yes" or "no". It can depend on the most important stages of your life and career, but it is not always easy to break through the wall of silence. In order to talk such a closed person and find out what he has in mind, you need to act consistently and gently. Do not squeeze the interlocutor with requests, exclude any aggression and in any case do not pressure him. Ask leading questions, tell us what is important to you, what answer would be optimal for you and why. But do not try to speak the interlocutor, give him the opportunity to speak.

Touchy.
It happens that among those with whom we have to communicate, there are people with such a subtle emotional organization that it seems that they are offended by literally everything. Whatever you do, it causes discomfort and suffering, whatever you say, it's always not that. This behavior indicates the presence of many complexes. The best tactic in dealing with a sensitive person is not to let him feel humiliated. Start the conversation with praise, soften all the sharp points in the subject of the discussion and look for as many advantages as possible in what you offer. If you notice that the interlocutor is pouting again and is ready to burst with accusations, get ahead of him with another compliment. Do not be afraid to do a pleasant, touchy person, because when he starts to trust you, all his children's tantrums will come to naught. The main thing is that with you he should feel safe.

Unsatisfied.
It is very difficult to communicate with people who are constantly dissatisfied with something. You come to him to solve some particular one or your common problem, and instead of a constructive solution you get an endless stream of complaints about everything that is relevant and does not apply. Such people tend to complain about life, but rarely attempt to change something for the better or look at the situation from the other side. Take matters into your own hands. Do not let the conversation go away from the topic you are interested in, specify your opponent's claims and immediately suggest ways of resolving the issue. By your example, show that insoluble situations are much less than it seems, and all minor troubles and difficulties can be completely overcome. Most likely, in dealing with such people, it is up to you to be an active party, but it's fine if you can get the complainant to act.

Indifferent.
You come to such a person with a conversation, the subject of which is very important for you, but you stumble upon cold indifference. The only emotions that can be caused by such a person are far from positive. Many fold precisely in front of such people, but they can also be selected with a key. To begin with, try to find out his opinion on this or that question. Formulate your proposal so that the interlocutor did not have a chance to answer: "I do not care". When his opinion is voiced, agree with him or with some points, even if basically you think differently. And only then offer your option, justifying your opinions and emphasizing the obvious advantages from this method of solving the problem. The main thing when communicating with the indifferent, cause the initial interest, start a conversation with a positive note and try not to press.

Of course, there are a lot of people and all of them are different, sometimes we can easily communicate even with those who are considered very withdrawn and aggressive, sometimes it is difficult for us to agree even with the most complaisant people. In order to be able to turn any situation in the right direction, learn to see a little more than lies on the surface. Pay attention to the features of human behavior, to its weak and strong sides, and try to use your observations gently and tactfully. There is nothing wrong with communicating with people on the basis of their characteristics, the only thing to be afraid of is playing games with other people's feelings, since such attempts end up with the complete failure of all efforts to establish communication.