Today you can not remember in all the details the feeling of shyness and shyness, I stopped being shy and the fear of communication for me is not a problem. I do not know for sure when I stopped feeling uncomfortable and timid. By nature, I'm not a sociable person, and I was not sure that I would become sociable ever. Each person has a threshold of manifestation of some of his personal qualities. But now in any big company I feel comfortable and confident. Overcoming shyness and shyness, I resorted to some tricks, I will share them with you.
Let us turn to consciousness .
All thoughts are of a material nature, build in your mind the right faith and beliefs. Repeat "Every day I become more and more confident", and at every opportunity, on the way to work, to the library, to the store, repeat to yourself this phrase. In the mind, you can imagine a situation where you are confidently performing in the environment of people, then you will feel the confidence in yourself and the joy of it. If it does not help, you should turn to hypnosis.
Communication.
Let there be positive people in your environment, they will provide you with the necessary support. If you communicate with the same shy people as you, then do not move forward, so you will only believe in your weakness. You need to be with such friends who will not ridicule you, and criticize, for your aspirations to overcome yourself. Near you there should be those friends on whom you can rely on everything, they will help you to move forward, so that you will reach some heights. Of course, it will be difficult to find such friends, but if there are people who will balance between criticism and support, then one should try to be more often next to them and boldly go to them.
It should expand its own comfort zone.
A person will not get cones if he does not do anything. If you do nothing, then you will not develop, and you will mark the spot. You do not know how to swim, but start by wetting your feet. At first it scares, but there will come a time when you need to get more air and dive into the water. The novelty of this action is frightening, but if we consistently go forward, it will force us to develop and grow. And to stop being embarrassed you need to go out to people, join situations where you will be uncomfortable, you need to spur on yourself. Do not give fear to master your consciousness and you.
On an example with swimming, let's imagine if you are in the deepest place, for the first time, with a run-up, throw yourself into the water. If you are very shy, then it is ineffective and unreal to speak right away with a speech, join a discussion and face a huge crowd of people. First, start with five people. If you can overcome shyness before the five listeners, then you need to go ahead and talk to ten people. Then there will be twenty and gradually should increase the audience. There is such an expression as therapy, by "immersing", when the patient is given to fight himself with fears when he is face to face, with all that he is most afraid of. And this method is effective. If this technique is conducted under the close guidance of a psychologist, it will have an effective effect. Our motto is words - slowly but surely.
Do not take to heart .
Often timid and sensitive people take very seriously the things that happen to them. And if I forget the words, will my voice start to shake if I make a mistake? These questions are in their heads. And if it does, will it kill you? You need to treat everything calmly and plan for the future your actions.
Shyness is a sense of self-esteem .
It's probably true that shyness is a sense of self-worth. The one who said this phrase, thought that shy people think only about what they think about and how they look in the eyes of the surrounding people, they also need to concentrate outside their "shell" and make the situation most valuable for themselves. You can give advice, think more about others than about yourself. In fact, no one cares about you, and everyone thinks about themselves. Do not go deep inside yourself. Stop thinking that people will not say it, they will not think so.
Do not cross the line, analyzing your actions.
If you think that you are shy, then you will not overcome your shyness. When you begin to analyze shyness, you will come to the conclusion that everything is meaningless. As soon as you are in such a situation, when you need not to stagger, but to act, then despair will let you go. All you need to do is practice. Do whatever you are afraid of and do not think that it is useless.
Love yourself.
Robust people feel uncomfortable and awkward and alone with themselves, and surrounded by people. Go to the cinema, have lunch, take a walk in solitude. It is noticed that quite confident people in crowded places feel comfortable and happy, being alone.
Read the books .
They will help overcome your shyness. Read how people could overcome their shyness, it will inspire you to curb your fears and overcome the heights.
In conclusion, you can stop shy in a big company, and it takes time to make a confident person out of a shy person, this is an achievable task. Sociability and confidence will make life better and more interesting, and several times more fun. Just do not have to put everything on hold.