There are in our lives, unfortunately, women who can not adequately arrange a personal life. It is difficult for them to understand why this happens. But it also happens that the family is there, but there are still many problems. A woman can not praise her man for anything, only one claim is made, problems are being put forward. Beautiful and harmonious relations in the family are absent, the real man is not around.
If you want to see a real man next to you, then you behave like a real woman, and not like a man! There is one wise phrase: "Whom you see, that and nurture." Try to remember it. And then you will not attract male rags.You will see only good in your man, it's good and you will get it. You will look for negative aspects every day, then you will definitely see them. There are only a few elementary mistakes that women like to commit:
The first error. Wrong choice of man
This female error is primary. A series of problems begins with it. Women, as a rule, prefer to choose a man with reason, not with the heart. Everyone seeks to adjust it to their parameters and criteria. Some pay attention only to appearance, others to financial solvency, the third only needs a business partner, and someone just a reliable friend. A thought is just about a beloved man does not even arise!
How to solve a problem? It is necessary to turn off the mind and turn on your heart. Think about how you feel about it with him, is there happiness in the relationship? Did you feel loved? Have you fluttered butterflies? Excellent! Talk only with your heart, do not listen to the advice of your friends. You can not sacrifice love for the sake of financial gain or some external attributes.
The second error. Criticism and the desire to remake a man
It is because of this mistake that a lot of divorces are committed, families are crumbling. This error is committed by hundreds of thousands of women. After all, by their nature, everything is allowed to decorate, rework, improve. But it's very dangerous to do this with a man, you just can not. A man, choosing a woman, wants to be loved and accepted as he is. This is the basic and most important male criterion when choosing a woman.
A woman creates a problem even when she criticizes her husband, expressing her displeasure. But it is much easier to ask him about what is needed. Try to approach with affection and ask him to sharpen knives. You will be amazed, but the knives in the house will now always be sharp. The problem immediately goes away. In the family there will come peace.
Catch yourself on the fact that again there was a need to remake her husband? Stop it. Extinguish this desire in yourself and tell him of your love. Men at a subconscious level clearly read the thoughts and mood of a loved one. And they themselves try to change for the better. He himself will want to justify your love. Always from a pure heart, thank the man for his support and help. Believe me, it will get better!
The third error. Laying on male functions
"The strength of a woman in her weakness." This common phrase is familiar to all long ago. And this is true. But often women act like they are men. Of course, they are not to blame for this. There were years when our grandmothers had to behave in this way. They entrusted men's affairs during the war, when men were absent. But even after the war they were courageous, because there were very few men alive. Our mothers were brought up in families with men, but they coped with everything independently.
And up to the present time, women tend to be strong, independent, purposeful. Take responsibility for the implementation of decisions. But we need to show more qualities of women, be gentle. And it turns out that having created a "general in a skirt", they also complain that the real men are no more, the men are not the ones who have gone now.
Include your mind, coming to the house, if you are a big boss at work. At home you are a mother, a wife or just a woman. So you behave like a woman. Let the man's qualities is shown by the man. More often ask him to help you. Let him get a mammoth, and you keep in the house coziness and love.
Fourth mistake. Excess care or care
Very often after marriage, the wife turns into a mother for her husband, cares about him as a small child. A man quickly gets used to this care, it's even easier for him to live. But here lies the problem! He ceases to see a woman in his wife, loses interest in her. And some men are even annoyed by this maternal attitude. They start looking for a woman on the side and they take care of her. They live so comfortably.
What should I do in this case? Nothing. Let him take care of himself. Leave him alone. Of course, care must continue, but not excessive. Men will find a way out of any situation, do not give them useful advice.
Fifth mistake. I live for my husband and children
Most women, when they meet a suitor, try to forget about themselves. They are no longer interested in the previous life. They completely dedicate their lives to the family. But with this understanding of life, the balance between the main spheres goes away. A person must realize himself in relationships, career, self-improvement, physical development, etc. But not only in one thing. Yes, and a man will be annoyed by the constant presence of women always and everywhere. It is necessary not only for a man to give self-realization, but for thinking about his own, too. Everyone should have a personal time to communicate with friends, for recreation.
Look after yourself. Remember that you are a beautiful and intelligent woman. Do yourself more, not a man. Do not spare neither time nor money for yourself. Allow yourself to communicate with friends, do not forget about your inner state, include pleasant music. Love yourself more than others. You will see that the surrounding space has become harmonious, and close people - the happiest.
Try to understand that you yourself want to make a relationship? And do you? What does a man get from you? Do you expect from him caress, attention, protection? Does he get it from you? It is not necessary to demand, but it is necessary to give kindness, care and love. In return, you will receive the same, but many times more. Live in love and happiness!