She can come to you to clean the apartment, wash, rearrange all the dishes and press the cutlet. In itself, it can be and not bad, but she is always dissatisfied with you: in her opinion you are doing everything wrong and in general you are no good at all. And how to deal with it?
If your chosen one has flown out of the parent's nest, barely flinched, and has long been communicating with relatives not too closely, then you hardly have to deal with such situations. Most likely, his mother trusts the choice of his son and is glad that you have him. This is the perfect mother-in-law!
If you are not so lucky, first of all, try to understand why your husband's mother completely interferes in your life. Perhaps she's just an unhappy woman who needs to sympathize.
The reasons for this behavior can be several, but the most important is that she gave you the most precious thing in her life. Of course, she can not part with her bloody painlessly. And if you already have children, you must understand this.
Perhaps his mother used to do everything for her child: she cooked, washed, cleaned, bought things ... That's why conflicts with the mother-in-law most often arise on domestic grounds. And the more mother takes care of her son, the more uncomfortable he grows, sometimes he can not step even without her consent. All this is exacerbated if a woman raised her son alone. Lack of male attention, she compensated for the care of the child. And now she's taken it away.
But how can she trust someone with her child?
It is only natural that with this attitude to your child, your mother-in-law will give you tough tests, a kind of examination for the right to be a wife, because now you have to do her job. Agree, you have more chances to fail, than to receive a satisfactory assessment, because your mother-in-law compares you, still an inexperienced hostess, with herself. And for any trifle (a thin layer of dust or carelessly thrown by your blessed sock) you can shlopotat couple. Her mother-in-law will try her best to show who the mistress is in the house. If you live with his parents, leadership is better to give in - after all, this is someone else's house. Resign yourself to the fact that she shifts your things, does not allow you to the stove and buys the curtains to your taste.
Can not? Then decide with her husband's apartment issue. However, even if you live separately, it's hard to withstand the mother-in-law's raids on your house, but you do not have to see her around the clock.
But no matter how much your mother-in-law behaved, you can not quarrel with her categorically! Do not forget: she is your beloved's mother.
In order to find a common language with your mother-in-law, you need to show her two things - her worth and respect for her. May your mother-in-law be your strict yet competent teacher in everyday life. Ask her to teach you how to bake pies, cook borscht, paint batteries, even if you can do all that well.
Do not reject her help. On the contrary, she herself involves in some joint business - go shopping together, go to the cottage, transplant flowers.
Call her often, do not forget to congratulate on holidays and give gifts even for the most insignificant reasons.
Try to draw your mother-in-law to your side with statements like "we know something (we see, we know how)".
Consult with her on any questions: where to buy food is cheaper, which powder is better to wash, how much sugar to put in jam. And remember: in the future, you too will become for someone a second mother - a mother-in-law or a mother-in-law. Therefore, never quarrel with your mother-in-law.