On the love front of "misfire" on self-esteem, men, however, and women, too, are quite sensitive. What to do if there is no erection, or does it disappear right after the beginning of sexual contact? Is it worth putting an equal sign between the expressions "there is no erection", "there is no desire", and also "there is no love"?
Why does a man lose desire?
Sexologists are sure that in 99% of cases the absence of an erection does not mean that the partner physically, as well as emotionally, became indifferent to the partner. The reason is that a man's desire is very vulnerable. Consider only some typical factors that reduce potency.
These are hormonal disorders; infections, somatic diseases of a different nature; problems in the family (and especially in relations with the partner) or at work; taking certain medications, as well as neuroses, depression, stress, accumulated fatigue; wrong way of life, various kinds of bad habits; perfectionism is the desire to do everything perfectly in a love game with your partner, which causes a rather high tension of the man.
In relationships, the role of women is difficult to minimize, especially if a man emerges in an intimate sphere of complexity. However, even the most self-denying beauties who deserve the title of sex bombs can easily lose confidence in their own attractiveness, faced with such a problem as a weak or missing male potency. The main mistake of most women is that she immediately begins to blame for this. For example, "He no longer wants me: I look bad!". He can also blame the man - "He no longer wants me: he has found himself another!". What is the right way to respond to the problem, to help your companion?
How to positively resolve this situation
Sexologists are sure that irregularities with potency can happen at times quite healthy men, even in quite happy, safe pairs. And if your relationship lasts a year or more, then your man's body has a full physiological right for a short pause, and it's better to calmly take these relations.
When the "misfire" happens only occasionally, do not panic and do not arrange the drums. It is not necessary to write the partner in the form of a "fashion" sexologist, and with a prohibitive price for 40 minutes of consultation, or buy unapproved special drugs to enhance the man's potency. You can not take such funds uncontrollably, and even if they are sold without a prescription, otherwise there is a risk not to improve, but worsen the situation. If a man's problems with erection are regular, it is necessary not delaying to apply to a specialist to identify and eliminate the cause of the disorder. It must be remembered that it is better not to discuss the partner's intimate health with close-knit wives, even if it's a sister, mother or girlfriend.
How can we defuse the situation, support a beloved man, if he was in such a situation? In the women's arsenal there are such secrets. Use the following tips. This is a quiet, confidential conversation. Convince your man that you do not see a problem in what happened; conduct role games, oral caresses, stimulating desire; a home spa program - for example, a bath with aromatic oils for two, or a relaxing massage that can become erotic.
This is a healthy home food that strengthens men's strength: walnuts, hazelnuts, honey, low-fat red meat, seafood, eggs, boiled fish, sour-milk products, greens, vegetables, fruits, and a cut or rye bread in your partner's daily menu must be mandatory.
If possible, it is good to organize an evening after work, a partner's weekend so that he can rest more, not only in front of the TV set in four walls, but also actively, for example, in nature, in the fitness club, in the sauna or at the dacha.
Temporary absence of an erection for a man for really loving each other people, in whose relationship there is inner harmony, trust and mutual understanding is not a problem. The most important thing is to calmly take it, unsettling the scenes, and try to help your man fix it.