During this period of life, a man is very different in his behavior and constantly looking for guilty in all his troubles and not come true hopes. In such situations, many women simply raise their hands, not knowing how to help her husband survive the crisis of middle age.
What do experts say?
As experts determine during this period, a man usually looks back, and, evaluating all his merits and failures, concentrates more on the latter. Thus, focusing on the fact that most of life has passed, and all that he has this unloved work, is not exactly a young wife, children, whom he does not always understand, and many more of the same "not." If to generalize, then life is spent in vain. Even if a man is successful in his work, and does his favorite thing, and besides all the above baggage he also has good assets and a lot of prospects for the future, he will still find the goal he did not achieve, or just what to dig.
For many men, a rematch seems to be a way out of such situations, in this they see the opportunity to start a new life, and not to repeat the mistakes of the past. As usual, a woman is taken to wife much younger, and it is nice for a man to realize that he can still attract the attention of a young person, and that in her eyes he is a secure and self-sufficient person, not a poor student, or a beginner, standing on his feet, businessman.
Of course, in such situations, it is the wife that gets most of all, who, besides being obliged to fulfill all her former duties, also listen to reproaches of the faithful and indulge him sometimes with a little crazy whim, and often even endure treason. And no matter what, think about how you can help your husband survive the crisis of middle age.
What can you advise your spouse in such a period of her faithful life, perhaps, only patience and strength, that would all endure.
How to recognize?
The main sign that "everything has begun" will be a change in the behavior of her husband. If a loved one began to change his style of clothing, hairstyle, maybe even tinted his hair, paying special attention to his appearance and less - to the family, and in his habits and conversations sometimes, more unbearable than a teenager - fasten, this is it. But not necessarily everything should be quite bad, the crisis of middle age is manifested in everyone differently, someone has more, someone has less. There is a possibility that his, so-called symptoms, will be reflected only on your relations with him, without touching, everyone around him. At such moments, the man most tries to change himself, and his life, while forgetting that in addition to himself, there are other people who are also an integral part of his life. This is clearly expressed in his conversations and actions, desires and new aspirations, which are not always adequately perceived by relatives. Usually, in such situations, a man, like in adolescence, encounters a wave of misunderstanding that even more stimulates him to prove to the world that his age is not the limit, and that all life is yet to come. But to a greater extent, all this is proved only to himself, and the wife becomes for him a kind of breakwater, that would be a misunderstanding of others, did not play a primary role.
It's time to act.
As the old folk wisdom says: "With words I can not help grief," so when all the signs, it's time to act on your face. To help her husband survive the crisis is possible only through efforts on oneself. So it turns out a paradox, a middle-aged crisis in her husband, and work for two of you. Initially, you need to collect all the forces, patience and common sense, and whatever happens, do not succumb to too vivid expression of emotions, especially negative ones. Always pretend that you are doing well, even if in fact it is far from the case. Do not say bad things about him, how about the father - to children, how about the husband and the man - to his parents, and to his own, friends and common acquaintances, and even more to himself. Do not despair if the duties of the pope are now partially poured on your shoulders, but do not forget that you are still a mother, and, moreover, the most beloved mother. Later you will be thanked for such efforts. Just tighten your memory in search of all the most significant moments associated with the activities of her husband. About your services to the fatherland and family for a time, forget. More often on the examples of the passed, prove to your husband that he achieved a lot, that life is still beautiful, and that he is still as loved and dear as ever. Be able to prove to him that you are after him to the end of the world, regardless of the color of his hair, their quantity, as well as the manner of dressing, without forgetting to note that the former one was very much nothing at all. It is better if you tell me that your friends told you about it or accidentally heard from a strange young lady.
A good option may be a joint vacation, which, of course, your husband deserved, and you in any case go to fulfill his cherished dream, or to engage in the present hobby, whatever that is.
In all this history there is also a positive moment for the ladies. Such a period as ever, is an excellent occasion and you think about your appearance, and take care of yourself. Beauty salons, a gym, an updated wardrobe will allow your husband to look at you from a new angle, again begin to be proud that he has such a woman, and it is easier to survive the crisis of middle age.
It also happens that all the efforts of the wife at one time are crossed out by the departure of the faithful "to the left," and often repeated. Usually such "therapy" lasts no more than two years, and does not carry any serious nature, and if the mistress persuades her husband to leave her family, then after the expiration of the due period, traitors usually knock on the threshold to the former wife again. It is difficult to fight with this, and even pointless, because if you decided to walk, it means it will. Here the matter is quite different. After such changes, especially when considering everything together, it is worthwhile to think about whether you are needed, this is not a young March cat? But it's up to you.