Who are they?
Pick-up (from the Australian pick up - "pick up") - a guy who constantly gets to know different girls, while having unfair intentions. Its main goal is to seduce the girl as quickly as possible or in case of emergency get hold of the number of your phone without spending money for it (this is very important for them: expenses are considered bad form). Pick-ups constantly come up and work out different methods of dating and courtship for girls, each of them has their own parties, websites and even special courses. As always, the coin has two sides. Of course, there are simple modest people who specifically go to various trainings to learn how to be more confident in yourself and how to build relationships with your beloved. But much more often the regulars of the packings parties - the guys who, having not thoroughly studied the basics of female psychology, get acquainted with a bunch of girls at once and a pretty poodle poor heads. And after that, together with friends in turn, compare the "catch" and put the scores on a ten-point scale.
Methods of Seduction
The rule is 10 seconds.
Pikapers have an unspoken rule: if you want to get acquainted with a girl, you need to approach her in the first 10 seconds, how this idea came to mind, otherwise something can interfere, and nothing will come out. So if you suddenly notice a stranger in the disco, who quickly entered, hurriedly looked around and immediately went to you, then be more careful - maybe there's something unclean.
Compliments.
Beautiful words are pleasant even for the most confident girl, but the picketers have compliments always too original. Handsome tells you about the "eyes of the color of the morning surf" and "the skin that glows brighter than the skyscrapers of Nyu-York"? Most likely, it does not matter to him whether you believe it or not. He wants you to remember him.
Reapport
This concept means "adjusting" to the behavior of the interlocutor. It is believed that it is much easier for a person to be located to himself, if you just start to mirror him a little: speak with the same intonation, get up in the same pose. Very loud boy suddenly starts, almost to whisper, and the guy with the usual gesture - to wave his arms, the word mill? Look, with whom they say: most likely, these are not their habits.
Speed.
Pikaperu not interested in a month to talk with you on the phone, he will try as early as possible to move to active activities - invite to visit with an overnight stay or to ask for you. Most likely, he will be assertive, persuasive and will promise you eternal happiness and a real paradise on earth. Believe it or not - your business, but keep in mind: you are unlikely to see it again.
Classification
This is Casanova .
It's enough just to make fun of him. The Real Casanova - a sick pride, he takes offense even at the most innocuous things.
Lover of girls.
He really knows how to fall in love. Often. About once a week. And every girl sincerely admits. That no one in my life has ever met. What to do: there are such persons, for them girls are works of art. Today he admired you, and tomorrow he already admires your friend. Most often they are excellent friends: sincere and kind. But a boyfriend from such a guy is unlikely to succeed - only if for a couple of days.
Beginning
Quite insecure boys often try to get acquainted with everyone in order to feel cool. These guys do not know how to build a normal relationship, but they never admit it. They just love to show off to friends, discuss (or just invent) their exploits and laugh at the naivete of the girls. It's better to avoid such a woman. Why fuel his self-esteem and spoil his reputation?
The guy in the search.
The good news: some pickupers dream of finding the perfect soul mate. It's quite difficult - you know. So they use the method of busting until they fall in love for real. NOT very honest, of course, but what can you do. Just explain right away that you will not share it with a crowd of girls - and let him choose what is more important to him.
Did you get a pick-up?
Understand.
You confidently declare "My guy is a pick-up!"? And maybe, someone who seemed to you a malicious seducer, really just a cheerful and sociable guy? Do not take hasty decisions: honestly talk to neither, explain what exactly excites you. If you are dear to the guy, he will not take offense - well, he washes, just for a little while. Suddenly all your suspicions are just signs of paranoia?
Resign. It's pointless trying to change a real pickup, you can not put your picture of the world in his head. For you, love is not a game, but it's different for him. If you understand that in addition to you he has a bunch of the same "suns" and "angels," it's better to just stop talking. Myself is more expensive.
Do not blame yourself. What's wrong with what you believed him? This is his problem - he does not understand that there are things more important than the list of victories. And you really are all right, just not lucky: faced with an unpleasant type. Do not think that all the guys are freaks, and you're the biggest loser in the world. And then you will miss your happiness.
Have some fun. You need time to recover, and you will look at the whole story differently. Turn it into an anecdote, laugh with your girlfriends. In the end, you go through life with your head held high, and this loser continues to endlessly chase everyone, hoping that at least somewhere he will not be refused. Poor thing.
Use it
In the philosophy of pick-up artists, not everything is so bad: something is useful for you to learn. For example, self-confidence - at least for the fact that getting acquainted without trembling in the knees and not mumbling that got in the new get-togethers. And they also read a lot of books on psychology and are able to find a common language even with the most withdrawn people. And they have a rich imagination, trained on complement. And most importantly - pikaperskie knowledge and techniques can be used not only on the love front. A competent approach to friends, parents and even a teacher or leaders is provided.