If your child can not concentrate on one thing, he has to waste a lot of energy and energy. And if at the earliest age it does not pose a great threat, then with time (especially in school) restlessness can become a real disaster for both the child and yourself. Remember the main thing: you are parents. And you are able to help the kid to cope with this problem. Only you need to do this carefully and consistently. So, how should you instill assiduity in your child? In this article you will find an exhaustive answer to this question.
Here and there ...
For a small child, only a couple of minutes is an eternity. Children try to cover as much as possible, so they always "jump" from one lesson to another. He just drew a drawing, it was not even five minutes before he took up the pyramid, but it was never assembled, because a cartoon was broadcast on TV, which could not be watched because of the need to meet the mother who came back from the store with what It's delicious. Over time, the child will learn the selectivity of perception and can arbitrarily concentrate his attention. Gradually, the period of concentration of the baby will be prolonged and then, thanks to the help of the parents, he will learn to be collected and will be able to carry out the work that has been begun until the end. But it takes a lot of strength and patience to form a child's perseverance skills and the ability to long attention concentration.
Be careful.
How can you instill your perseverance with perseverance? First and foremost, parents should begin to develop the baby's attention. Many mothers and fathers require attentiveness already in 2-3-year-old children, while even in 5-6-years old children's attention is involuntary. This means that it is difficult for the child to concentrate on demand. At this age children can attract only something that is bright and attractive. However, this involuntary attention allows pre-school children to shovel a huge amount of information 3-4 years before school, to take an interest in everything and try everything.
With all this, parents believe that the baby should play quietly in his corner, without interfering with the household. And at the same time, we wish that in the future the child successfully went to school, naturally, independently. At this stage, adults should realize that the baby will grow assiduous and disciplined only if in the early childhood, mom and dad together with him will work on the development of mindfulness. How to conduct classes?
We offer a small cheat sheet:
• Remember that kids love everything bright and interesting. Therefore, if you want to enthrall a child by performing a task, tell him about the attractive aspects of this activity. Also, you can tell an incredible fairytale story associated with the task, or make the exercises similar to the competition.
• To be productive, it is necessary to create a calm and favorable atmosphere. So put aside the toys and make sure that the TV is turned off.
• In the process of expressing your emotions, rejoice and be surprised with the baby.
And, of course, do not forget to praise your child for success.
• Keep in mind that speech is one of the main means of fostering attention. Therefore, comment on everything that you do, and also ask the child to say his actions and share with you thoughts about what he is going to do. Thus, the child will learn to plan his actions. If the baby is not yet able to build a plan, help him to cope with this difficult task, ask: "What are you doing now?", "What will you do then?", "Look there ...", "And you can do it like this ".
• If, despite all your efforts and contrivances, a beloved child now and then turns around looking for more exciting activities, do not try to curb his impulses with imperative phrases like: "Calm down!", "Do not swing!". Better suggest the child to finish the job: "Look, you have only a few left to finish," "Let's draw another flower," etc.
In order for lessons to be fun for the child and bring maximum benefit, parents should always remember that:
- A 5-year-old child can concentrate on one session for about 15 minutes, then he needs to change his activity;
- You can not require the child to sit on a task more than he is capable of;
- the impressionable, painful and weakened children concentration level is lower, so they are more distracted.
Patience and work.
In the process of development of the attention of the baby, we also teach his patience, the ability to complete the work that has been started and to achieve the goal. In the future, these skills will allow the child to successfully cope with the school curriculum and the performance of homework. There is no better and more interesting lesson for a child than a game. Meanwhile, it is the game that promotes the development of attention, patience and perseverance. The game ensures the arbitrariness of behavior, that is, the child controls himself and, of course, independently solves everything. At the same time, it requires the implementation of certain rules and the completion of the initiated case. Thus, the child must exercise patience, otherwise he will not be accepted into the game.
A proven and effective way to educate patience and desire to achieve the necessary results is labor. However, kids are usually happy to help with the housework of their parents. True, Mom and Dad for some reason do not always approve of the children's initiative. After all, he can rub the floors with your favorite kitchen towel, and after a grand dishwashing you can miss cups or saucers. In such cases, parents often throw out all their anger at the failed assistant, which you can not do in any case. Otherwise, you will completely take away from your crumb any desire to help you. He wanted something better! You should clearly understand this and encourage the child's desire to help you in every possible way. Sincerely praise the child for the work well done, and in a kindly manner, express your wishes if the child something did not work: "The floor is washed with a special cloth, and we wipe ourselves with a towel", "When you wash the dishes, hold the object firmly in your hands, otherwise he will slip, "" When you water the flowers, you do not need to pour too much water, "etc. So if you want your child to grow up hard-working, never stop trying to help you!
And more, take note of a few points:
• Do not expect the child to begin to show patience. The responsibility for the formation of this quality in the baby lies on the adult;
• Mom and Dad should organize the activities of the child. It is not superfluous to ask: "What are you going to do now, and then what?";
• Encourage, encourage and praise the baby in every possible way. Do not limit yourself to the common words "clever" and "well done". It is better to point out to the child what he did especially well. And most importantly - explain why he achieved success: "You tried, achieved your goal and was patient, so you did it." If the baby still does not succeed, calm him down, support him. Explain to him that "in order for everything to work out, sometimes it is necessary to do the same work several times. This is how we learn everything. "
Games for the development of attention.
Find differences. Show the baby two similar patterns and ask for differences.
What's missing? Put in front of the child 3-7 toys (the number of toys depends on the age of the baby), and then ask him to close his eyes and hide one toy. After that, give the signal to open your eyes. He must say which toy is missing.
Edible - inedible. You throw the ball at the child, while calling the word. The child should catch the ball only if you say something edible, and if not - you should give up.
Do as I do! By counting, you rhythmically perform simple movements (for example, nod, clap your hands, stamp your foot), and the child repeats after you. Then, unexpectedly for the baby, you change the movement. The child must orient and repeat for you a new movement.
Three tasks. The baby gets into a comfortable pose, then at the signal "One, two, three - take it!" He must freeze and remain motionless. At this time, you name three tasks, and after the command "One, two, three - run!" The kid is sent to perform tasks. And the tasks must be performed exactly in the order in which you indicated. Here is an example of tasks:
1. What is a pet?
2. Jump three times.
3. Bring a blue typewriter.
Games that require assiduity.
If you want to give the kid a lesson that requires perseverance, ask him:
Paint. Take a coloring or yourself draw an object and ask the child to decorate it, without leaving the outline.
To sculpt. Molding from plasticine is very interesting and fun, especially with mom and dad. Try it! Everybody will like it!
Pick up a puzzle piece or a mosaic.
Arrange the details of the mosaic by color.
Play with the laces .
Pour the beans or peas into a bottle with a narrow neck.
Pour water from a container with a wide neck into a container with a narrow neck.
You can show imagination and come up with a lot of games that require scrupulousness and perseverance. However, parents should not forget to offer the kid and active games, so that he can splash out all the energy accumulated during the day. In addition, it is necessary to choose the right time for classes. If a child has a fidgety mood, it is better to let him run at this moment.
Accept your baby the way he is, and do not set him as an example of neighbor Masha, Sasha, Glasha or anyone else. Even if they can half an hour to collect a puzzle, unlike your unconsciousness, which does not sit out for more than 10 minutes. Do not put pressure on the child! If a child can sit only 10 minutes, then do so much. The main thing - keep busy!