Every girl and woman, regardless of age, wants to get married. The first problem is to find the right man for a family. For whom horrible to marry is not worth it, and the one for whom it stands, is extremely difficult to find.
The second problem is to save the marriage. And not just save, but be happy in marriage. How to maintain respect, love and passion in marriage? Let's say you already have a candidate for husbands, or you just recently began to live together, having legalized your relationship. How do you need to follow the rules so that relationships in the family grow stronger over time, and your marriage has become a happy marriage?
"Adult" attitude to emotions - control and awareness
In fact, everything is very simple. It is very important for a woman to learn to control her emotions, so that any statement of her husband of a general nature is not perceived in relation to her person. If you do not learn this, you will have to feel insulted all the time, and this will not add to your happiness. Before you know the answer to the question of how to maintain respect, love and passion in marriage, look at yourself and realize where - "your" cockroaches, and where really - claims.
It is very important to let the man feel himself the master of the situation, the head of the family, and therefore one should never make independent decisions, even if you have a clear plan of action. Grant the right to make decisions to your husband, and if you are an intelligent woman, lead him to the right decision, but so that the man feels at the height of the opportunity to lead the family. This will not only help to maintain respect for love and passion in marriage, but will also give him the strength to continue making important decisions about the family. You will only need to guide him to these clever decisions, and this will be the only correct answer to the question of how to maintain respect, love and passion in marriage.
If you take upon yourself the decision of all family problems, you will soon notice that your husband has ceased to be interested in family affairs at all - and without him everything was cooked, and also lost interest in himself as a significant member of the family. It is necessary to be able to raise a man from a man, so that he is not afraid to take and take responsibility for the family.
Respect
Very important question - when you got married, did you respect your husband? I think the answer will be only positive. What kind of woman will marry a man she does not respect? Then why in the process of family life often happens that the husband ceases to be considered a significant figure in the family, make him scandals, disassembly, deprive him of sex, which is an indicator that the man is not respected? Can a woman feel happy, maintain respect, love and passion in marriage, if she does not respect her husband as a man, earner, partner? Hardly. Humiliation of her husband, you humiliate yourself first. Who is to blame, that you can not give your husband anything but scandals? Remember, everything you give to your husband, you give to your family, this is your contribution to your family treasury of happiness. Learn to give your husband his love and care, and he will answer you the same.
The husband is the protector!
It is very important that a man feel defended by his family. Do not force a man to do something, and reproach him for inaction. You just need to show him your weakness, what you really need in him, it is in him, and not in his help. Man is such an attitude inspires him! In no event can you show your strength to a man, especially since you are stronger than him. A man can not stand such a rivalry and leave the family. He is by nature a defender, and you, his wife, must be under his protection, because we are weaker and need it.
This state of affairs allows you to keep both the man's respect for himself, and love, passion in marriage. It will be very good if you know about your husband's interests, his hobbies and hobbies. And not just to know, but to be interested in this side of his life. Otherwise, he will consider that you are indifferent to him, because his hobbies are his continuation. You, his wife, are also his continuation.
Given this, it must be remembered that no man needs a bad continuation of himself, so the scandalous wife will try to get rid of the scandalous wife.
Dirty manipulation - food and sex
Her husband needs not only to love, but also to cherish, it concerns the work of the home. As for sex, then you can not deprive your husband of sex under any circumstances. This is the only way to preserve respect, harmony, love and passion in marriage - without manipulating them!
A man should not feel himself restrained in this matter. For him, sex is very important! And if you will guide his actions through sex, then instead of preserving love and respect, you will put them at risk. Believe me, a man stumped in despair, very quickly find a passion on the side, in order to become independent on this issue. It is better to stick to the position that depriving your husband of sex, you deprive yourself of sex and yourself, which means that you are doing worse to your whole family.
Can we do without advice?
Sooner or later, your family will have children. The load for both you and your husband will increase several times. Let him feel that you see and appreciate his concern for you, a man should feel himself a winner, only this will give him strength. A man should take part in the upbringing of children, and you should not interfere with it. A man should not give advice, it can humiliate him.
To give advice should be the right of the husband, as the head of the family and your advocate. It is very important that you are able to talk with your husband, dialogue is the engine of your family for well-being.
Do not be afraid of quarrels, do not hesitate to ask for forgiveness and do not be afraid to yield - all this contributes to the development of relations. Do not confuse the quarrel with the scandal. The quarrel is a productive dialogue between two reasonable people with the aim of making a common decision, allowing to maintain respect, love and passion in any marriage.
We choose, and not choose us!
Personally, I believe, and it's not just my opinion that not men choose us, but we women choose our men and choose our husband. A woman should be wise, no wonder a woman has always been considered the guardian of the home. Only a woman is able to create in the family exactly the atmosphere that she needs in order to feel for her husband as a stone wall and be happy in marriage.