Family life consists of a whole cocktail of events: here and joint rises to work, and evening tea parties, and small quarrels because of socks scattered in the wrong place. But all these delights are only in the traditional family, which can not be said about such a phenomenon as guest marriage, in which it is simply impossible to create such situations.
Many believe that without the details described above, the family can not exist, and therefore a guest marriage can hardly be called real. People who are in such relationships, and who dare to attack the truth, saying that a successful family is a huge front of work, and proved that you can avoid routine, leaving an endless holiday in your life.
Spouses who openly admit that they are in a guest marriage are sure that there is a strictly assigned place for work, namely an office, and everyone should have fun, without turning it into a habit and the more so as a duty. This also applies to sexual relations, because love is necessary only when the soul desires, and not because you have a sexual duty. Care for a partner should also bring joy and do not stoop for a husband or wife just so that in old age it was boring to bother lonely evenings.
Tradition is a strong thing
It's strange to hear from the defenders of the traditional family that no one will give a drink to the people who live in a guest marriage in old age, who is full of water. And what if you do not need this glass?
The next argument, sounding in support of the traditions, is the need to give birth and bring up children who will be difficult to explain why mom and dad do not live together all the time, but only occasionally visit a friend. And who told you that this is correct? Yes, in our country many women live with unloved men only because children have to live in everyone, in which both parents are nominally.
Many supporters of traditional marriages, among which there are often men, believe that guest relations can not be called a family. Yes, it is advantageous for a man to come once a week to a so-called spouse, get emotional support and sexual relaxation, a woman is comfortable not to lead a household, do not cook constantly and wait for her husband from work. But if a man decides to marry, he should be ready for all of its charms.
There is an impression that in families with a traditional background, the idea of some sacrifice is hanging, and people are marrying just to have someone to spend old with and die in one day. As if marriage is a guarantee of the fact that in old age you will have a favorite half, trust and love, which we deserved in our youth. It turns out that after living to an advanced age, you can only rely on your spouse. But what about the rest of the people, for example, children, relatives?
Confidence factor
If we consider traditional marriage from the point of view of stability, then people who are in family relations can show that their union is eternal, and the partner they trust will stay with us for the rest of the day. Living in a guest marriage, partners are aware that as a nikruti, and in this life have to rely mainly on a loved one and we come to this world alone, and leave without any escort. Agree, because there are many examples where neither the common household, nor even children are saved from betrayal, deadly illness or an accident.
True, we should not hide the fact that guest marriages are supported by people with a special mentality and lifestyle: they are somewhatindependent, too independent to rely on someone other than themselves, they are quite honest with themselves, admitting that they can hardly live their whole life with one's partner. Psychologists say that it is people who belong to these categories that support ideas with a guest marriage. The rest, not having a stable relationship and at least some certainty in the future, will suffer from this state of affairs.
Speak against guest marriage and those who fell into this situation forced. These categories include couples, of whom one has found, received an interesting post in another city and can only see their second half on rare days of holidays. Not satisfied with the situation with guest marriage and those who can not buy or rent a house, in which the family can live.
But one can not think that all people living in a guest marriage from the very beginning agreed on such relations. Often this situation is forced. A vivid example, we cited above. It's about when one of the spouses has to work or study in another city.
On the one hand, such a marriage is practically unlimited freedom, but how sometimes do women want to pamper their husband with something delicious, cuddle up in a cold bed, prepare a breakfast and smack before work. Men also suffer, because in the distance from women, they do not have enough affection and support.
Draw conclusions
Those who are interested in the constant presence of the second halves nearby, who are ready to share with it all the happiness and sorrows, who want to jointly bring up their beloved children, will never agree to live a guest marriage. The only exception is the forced situation, because it is much more pleasant for them to fill out their daily homework, or beloved, insofar as he or she will return from work, from the mother or from the gym.
If you have no children yet and are ready for bold experiments, it may well be that the guest marriage is something that you need. At all thus you will have a classical wedding with a white dress, a stamp in the passport and the realization that you have a spouse.
They have a guest marriage and their unique features. So, each of the spouses has a lot of free time, which he volentrazit at his own discretion: if you want to pursue a career, you want to improve in figure skating or motocross. Another pleasant moment that is present in such relations is a constant romantic mood, which is maintained during the communication of the spouses.
The main disadvantage of guest marriage can be considered, as nistranno, a negative opinion of others, many of whom consider such a couple to be not perverts, whose relations sooner or later will come to an end.
Psychologists say that guest marriage can be considered a temporary transition form and a kind of testing of relationships for strength. In addition, it is extremely difficult for children to be raised in such a state of affairs and the spouses who decide to have a baby are born sooner or later, and their family returns to a more traditional way of life.