To begin with, it's good to realize what you want to change in yourself. What qualities do you have for what they are for you. Why do you need these personality traits? Choose the one that you want to change the most. After all, trying to change yourself is a completely impossible task. Start with one character trait or habit. Gradually accustoming your mind to change, other qualities you can change much faster and easier.
The desire to change is already a big step to success. Think about why you want to change, what does not suit you so much in your life? In the beginning, you will have to control this process. While new actions will not become a habit, and later become a feature of character. The process of change implies awareness of actions, emotions and thoughts.
Each of us decides how he will be, how others will treat him, what his life will be like. Take responsibility for your life on yourself. Only then can you change. Determine for yourself how you want to become.
Realize what actions you are doing under the influence of the character trait that you want to change. What emotions do you feel, what thoughts evoke these emotions. Find the root of the behavior that does not suit you. Often it's enough to see where the problems are growing to get rid of them.
Decide how you will change your life. Here are a few tools to help you.
1. Reason (intellect).
Most of the time we live like biorobots, according to a set program. Work the house, again work. We are not here and now. We do not feel this reality until something happens that is knocking us out of the rut. Wake up and your life will begin to change.
In order to "wake up" regularly ask yourself questions: What is the meaning of life? What is the most important for me here and now? What are my desires? We are all different. Everyone has his own goal and dream. Someone is important family or love, someone - work or self-realization.
Then think about what actions will lead you to the most important thing in your life. And start acting. Only actions will lead you to the result.
Set goals for yourself. Short-term and long. A clear plan will help you move forward. Get a diary of accomplishments. And write there goals for the day, month, year. Most people do not think where they go. If you write down your goals, draw up a plan of achievement. You can change life and yourself. After all, now you have somewhere to go.
If you are ready to exit the "autopilot" mode, then I advise reading the book "Achieving the maximum" by Brian Tracy.
2. Forgiveness.
An important factor in improving yourself is getting rid of hurt. This cargo must necessarily be thrown out. While you are spending energy on grievances, there will be no power to change. Think of all your abusers. Allow yourself to forgive them. Say out loud: "I forgive you (the name of your offender) for that ..." Let the insults leave you. After all, they are the ones you torment. And your abuser does not care at all that you are offended by him.
3. Love.
Any person wants to be loved. We have a need to receive and give love. First of all, you must love yourself. Only a man who loves himself can share his love with all his heart. Find your positive side, remember your good deeds. Record your achievements. You have something to love yourself for. You are unique and unrepeatable. Remember this. Learn to express your love. Tell yourself and your loved ones how much you love them. And they will reciprocate you.
If you want more love in your life, I advise you to read "Ten Secrets of Love" by Adam Jackson and "Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman.
4. Communication.
Each of us wants to be understood. We all are looking for support and approval from relatives and friends. Therefore, learn to communicate, be open as children. And you will be loved, you will be drawn to you.
Find like-minded people. Now it's that easy. Create a group in the contact. Invite everyone who is close to you in spirit and interests.
5. Wisdom and spirituality.
The world does not consist of one matter. Happiness can not be complete without peace of mind and peace. To learn it will help you study the spiritual laws of being. By following these universal laws, you will change yourself and change the world around.
6. Music.
Choose the perfect music that will help you relax with your body and soul. Take for yourself the rule every day to dissolve in this music. Dance and sing. Express your emotions through the body. This will help to throw off excess aggression and fatigue.
I advise you to listen to classical works. I highly recommend listening, and it's even better to dance, waltz.
7. Joy.
Enjoy life. Allow yourself to rejoice. Find in each day something beautiful and joyful. Start the morning with a smile to yourself. Come to the mirror, smile to yourself and wish good morning.
How long have you laughed heartily? Laugh, laughter prolongs life and makes it beautiful. Share your joy with others, they will answer you the same.
8. Gifts.
Make gifts to yourself and your loved ones. Do not necessarily give something expensive. Buy yourself a bouquet of lilies of the valley or go to the movies. Buy a balloon and release it into the sky. Allow yourself to be a little child. Give your family a good mood.
Do not be afraid to change. This is a very exciting activity. Remember, life is beautiful! Just have to turn to face her. Look in all the positive aspects.
And throw out the zombie maker. Do not look news and criminal chronicles. Look better for a good family movie. I advise everyone who has not seen it to watch the movie "The Secret".
I wish you good and fast changes, because now you know how to quickly change in a good direction.