Do you like outdoor activities and noisy companies? Or on the contrary, at the end of the working day are happy that you go home, where only your husband and your beloved cat are waiting for you? Are you an "owl", "lark" or "dove" -arrhythmic? Many of our features are strongly tied to biological features.
The main characteristics that determine the biological foundation of the individual and his influence on interpersonal relationships - temperament, gender and age.
Age difference
At a young age we easily make friends, communicate with large companies, we support many contacts. After all, the world is so interesting! And there is so much to learn! Therefore, interpersonal relationships and the impact on them of biological factors as the foundation of the individual, is great.
With age, we are increasingly picky about both new acquaintances and the already established relationships. We tend to choose whom to communicate with and in what way. With colleagues - a little wary, if from an awkward word will depend on our career. With old friends who have changed their social status - selectively, if in fact there is something to talk about.
Becoming older, we not only gain experience and wisdom, but, unfortunately, we lose the speed of reaction. And psychologists in the relationship also singled out the "female" and "male" type of reaction to the message.
Women and men
Biology of sex, of course, greatly affects how we communicate. How to build interpersonal relationships. In this respect, the "male" and "female" communication is indicative. If a friend did not call for six months - for a man this is not yet an excuse for "war" and "showdowns." And for a woman - a sign of existing problems in the relationship and an excuse for a "chill" in the voice, if the girlfriend still calls.
"I broke a nail because of you!" - complains the woman with some insult in her voice. A man will offer her to prune the rest of the length of the broken or (with a fright) will give money to visit the manicurist. A girlfriend will be upset with "out of solidarity", pohahat or vice versa - emotionally cheers on the words "Let this be the worst disaster that will happen to you this week!"
Psychologists working with clients of both sexes have long understood that the biological foundation of the individual and his influence on interpersonal relationships is primary. In a relationship with a man, it is best to use precise concepts, to use well almost dictionary definitions. Clarity in terms of both your thoughts and your message.
Therefore, men react so painfully to the "transparent hints" that they are addressed by a woman. And no less difficult for women perceive the lack of much-needed care for them - not on business (to bring, get, make, repair), but in words. Women lack emotions from their men, support expressed in words, gestures, tones, feelings about the emotional state of women ...
Yes, and the types of interpersonal relationships are different in accordance with the biological foundation of the individual, and his influence is colossal. "Male" and "female" type of reaction for psychologists - not nonsense, and even to please the emancipation of these concepts, no one has changed.
Choleric and melancholic, sanguine and phlegmatic. And also "owls", "Yesenin" and other typologies of personality
Man is peculiar to rationalize. To explain logically the difference between people is easiest with the help of all sorts of classifications. So there were people of different temperaments, people of different time of the day and so on. But to explain why our friends happily call us in the movies, but we want to be alone, why one spouse has fun and entertainment, and the other is sad, it's still difficult.
What is primary - a temperament that develops "following" biological factors and characteristics, or conditions that form a temperament? It is difficult to say unequivocally. But look at the children. Even at a time when only their own body exists for them and the Mother - the universe that supports his life activity, some are contemplative, others are serious, others are restless. So, biology does its job, and we are originally different - from birth or even earlier.
How do different "types" get along?
Live together and build interpersonal relationships for people of different temperaments is sometimes difficult. Especially if they are one family, and are forced to interact daily. But with due attention to each other, every day considering the biological, and therefore the basic differences of each other, we are fully able to effectively interact. Without stepping on the "favorite callouses" and respecting each person, we can competently build up our relations day after day - for mutual benefit and pleasure.