In search of morality.
The first thing that all child psychologists and teachers recommend is the need for a conversation. How to punish the child, if not explain to him the reasons for punishment and the consequence of his actions? This will impact on the confidence of the kid to you. Therefore, when the child has naskodil, do not break into a cry, try to keep the emotions in check. Explain what the child was not right, what options for his actions would be more correct, then try to bring the baby to the right conclusions. It is important that the child himself understands why one should not do it anyway.
Stop!
When a child goes out of control, sometimes a mini-pause will be the best method of influencing him. For this purpose, some room or part of the room is taken away, where the child must spend some time in silence, thinking over his behavior. However, this method does not work with the kids, so in order to pause in the child's whims, parents can leave the room where the child is. This is not a punishment, but just a way to stop some tricks. Children often manipulate their parents, they try to attract attention in not quite the right ways, this option is perfect for these cases.
Restrictions.
On how to punish the child in each case, you need to think seriously. Some offenses require more serious punishment. In such cases, the method of restrictions in some habitual pleasures or entertainments works well. This may be a ban on viewing cartoons for the evening, for computer games, depriving a sweet or some gift. The importance is that the child feel that for serious offenses he is deprived of something really important for him, otherwise there will be no effect. But if you bend the stick, the child will feel unhappy, so in each case, you need to observe the measure.
Ignoring.
Children perfectly understand their power over their parents, which is what they use from an early age. Sometimes the child's bad behavior is based only on testing how far his ability to manipulate you can go. How to punish a child in such cases is not a secret. It's best to ignore all attempts to influence you. Requests, tears, scandals should not make you go against the rules that you set. For example, if a child requires a toy in the store, and for some reason you are not ready for this purchase right now, the refusal and explanation of the refusal should become a sufficient reason for the child not to continue the request. If the kid is offended and begins to be capricious, it's best not to pay attention to it. So the child will understand that your word is more important, that he can not receive everything and always on demand.
What should not be done ever.
On how to punish the child correctly, psychologists, teachers and parents in succession for many decades. But there are things that can not be done in any case.
Threats and intimidation.
This is excluded, otherwise it can lead to serious violations in the psyche of the child, neuroses, health problems. But it can happen that your threats just stop being taken seriously by the child, when he notices that you are not doing them.
-Physical punishment.
Half a century ago, physical punishment was considered the norm. But violence against children should not take place in any family. Before you slap the child's hand or hit with a belt, think about whether you will do him more harm than you want? Do you have the right to use force against your own child, who is weaker than you, and who has not committed anything that deserves such treatment? In addition, children remember cruelty well, which can not but affect their future.
-Looking pranks without attention.
Lack of any attention to pranks is as harmful as busting with punishments. Therefore, if a child does something that is forbidden in your family, he should know that he is doing wrong and that repeating such actions will result in punishment. This will help him to quickly learn what is good and what is bad.
Parents are always worried about the question of how to punish their beloved, but not always obedient child. In educational purposes, parents often punish their children, which they often regret. It is important that the offense and punishment are commensurate. You can not shake your finger at it. that the child tortures the animals, but you can not leave him in the room for the whole day because he spilled the soup. Love, patience and reasonable approach can parents choose that way of controlling the behavior of the child, which suits them most and does not harm.