Do you know that feeling when you hardly meet a young man, are you ready to give him everything at once? If so, be careful! Perhaps you are hooked to a skillfully performing role as a pickup guy who, using your naivete, sharpens his mastery of seducing girls. Since ancient times, the cunning seducer of girls and women, Casanova, is known. To date, this phenomenon of "pickup" or, in Russian, the art of seduction, is so wide in the circles of young people that sometimes you involuntarily think, and who is now in front of me? A guy in love, or skillfully fulfilling his role as a pick-up artist?
General characteristics of the pick-up :
- Has an impeccable appearance, that is, ideally cut, shaved, smoothed and so on;
- Dwells always in crowded places, which tend to flirt, more often etonochnye clubs, bars, restaurants, discos, billiard, at work and almost everywhere;
- They have an unconventional approach to relations, that is, they first get acquainted, sublimate, then reappear;
- They are very erudite, have a fine sense of humor, never remain silent, they know a huge number of stories that smoothly end with always having sex;
- Try to always touch the girl;
- Never pay for refreshments;
- After the slightest interest in their person they try to take the next victim as far as possible from the noisy place and bring the case to the end, to get sex from the girl.
Methods of seduction of pick-up artists
To get the final result with a bright ending, pickups use a dozen of methods of seduction. Let's discuss them and remember, so as not to fall for the tricks of these "sexual crooks." The following are common methods:
- a short visual contact with the girl, that is, checking the speed of reaction of the future victim and calling the primary interest to one's own person;
- when speaking, they always express their admiration for the girl, emphasize her unique character and uniqueness, making compliments in an unobtrusive manner to frighten a naive poor fellow;
- creates the impression of a simple and sincere guy, and then includes the techniques of the Eriksonian hypnosis, with the help of which a countdown clock can fall in love with a girl;
- during a conversation they behave with restraint and try always to turn the channel of conversation in the direction of finding out the data about the girl herself, and not telling herself. Possessing this information, they build tactics of "approach" to this girl;
- during a conversation changes tactics of behavior, that is, first "attacks" the girl with difficult questions, and then gives the initiative to the girl herself, who already tries to please herself and continue her acquaintance;
- always achieving its goal, creates a situation in which the girl seems to throw him. This method is called "not to cause pain to the female sex."
All would be well if the girl regarded this "acquaintance" as a light fluff. And what to do to those whose heart is broken and crushed? How not to come across such tricky tricks in the future?
How not to become a victim of the cold calculation of the pick-up?
To begin with, in order never to step on the same rake, it is necessary to decide for yourself, but what exactly do you want from further relationships with this young man? How not to become a victim of a cold calculator?
If you are brought up in a strict framework and do not accept sex for one night, then it is necessary to be more circumspect and vigilant. That is, do not allow yourself to openly "paw" yourself, a long time to look guy in the eye on the first date and try to pay for coffee in a cafe for you, not you for it. It would also be superfluous to lay out the questions on the shelves, which he will have time to ask you before his catastrophic collapse, that is, before his disclosure as a seducer with his own hands. Usually, for seduction, pickups use a temporary barrier (an unspoken rule), which is ten minutes. If you could not endure the charms of this young seducer, then you can be congratulated! You just abandoned the pickup! You can be proud of yourself!
Never answer the pick-up questions of the pick-up sincerely, so that later, with the possible continuation of communication, he could not build an approach tactics to you and do not allow an affinity, otherwise alas, this is the logical end of his efforts and your tears. With too much nastornuvstvovaniyu on sex immediately, do not hesitate, tell the guy everything that you think about him and catch him in belonging to a pickup truck. Such an action will completely take away from this insolent person not the temptation to seduce this evening, but will make you think about adjusting your behavior and possibly make the idea of being an ideal macho.
If at a meeting of a young man, he tirelessly says, does not interrupt you, too confidently holds, gracefully gesticulates and controls every movement of his facial expressions, then without hesitation, immediately run away from him under any pretext. Ordinary guy always almost always in ideality does not own his facial expressions, intonation, timbre of voice. Often the usual guy at the meeting is silent and shy, not to put his arm on your shoulder, afraid to ask an extra question. The only thing that an ordinary guy is capable of is to invite you to a movie or a romantic place where you do not have to spend a fabulous sum of money. For him, the main thing is your attention and acceptance of him as he is with all the shortcomings.
If you are comfortable with the consumer's view of a very nice men's box and you are not averse to "playing" with him in love for one night, then you can play a pickup and spend time with benefit, both for the soul and for the body. The benefit of the section has not been canceled yet!
The main thing is not to fall for the tricks of this kind of scoundrels, always be vigilant and do not allow to overly enchant and treat you. Remember the simple, but effective rule, which in childhood every mother encourages her girlfriend - never to talk with strangers. A joke, of course, but in every joke there is a good spoon of truth.