What if I fell in love with a guy who loves another

True love ... She devotes poems, poems and whole novels. It brings joy, happiness. From sincere, true love, the sky becomes purer, and the sun is brighter.

True, everything is beautiful, everything is perfect? When love is mutual. And what if I fell in love with a guy who loves another? How to act, how to live, how to survive and not to go mad?

How many girls asked themselves this question, but not all found an answer that would satisfy them.

Pragmatists and cynics often say in such a situation: yes, forget it. You will forget here, if the one and the other are always standing in front of your eyes, and thoughts are turning in your head: how is she better than she is so special, why the hell is not I? And the worst thing, it's for everything else, you also know that she does not love him. Yes, your special, unusual, the best, for her - just an empty space.

Anger, resentment, irritation, maybe hatred. The whole spectrum of feelings covers with a head. And you just do not understand what to think about and how to act. Of course, you can hate it, because it's she, yes, it's she who spoiled everything and broke it. Even if this third party of your love triangle and know does not know about your love, or about it. All the same, in all her fault. You can send her megatons of hatred, curse, wish for the worst of the worst. So it becomes easier. For a while.

And if you can not hate her. And if, for example, is she your girlfriend? If she loves him and can not live without him? And if you, you yourself love her, appreciate her. What then? How to act? Tell her by subjecting your friendship to trials or maybe to remain silent, and when the truth opens, and she just opens up, just lose her girlfriend and live on with a double pain in her soul.

And now you are already beating your head against the wall, crying, damning the whole world and you do not see a solution in the question: what if I fell in love with a guy who loves another?

What to do? First, get away from the wall. If you beat out your brains, you definitely will not find a solution, because there is nothing to think about. Has she? Well done. Now drink something soothing and try to calm down. And it's better to sleep. It is easier to make right decisions on a fresh head.

So, you are fresh and rested, as far as possible of course. Excellent. Now you can begin to understand the situation.

How to act if he loves another, and she loves him too. That is, they are a couple. There you have only two ways out: let go or fight for the guy. To release, of course, it is difficult, painful and unbearable, at first. But in this situation, this is the only correct decision. Even if you think wrong and want to fight. Well, analyze yourself: he loves her. LOVES. How are you going to eradicate this love? Then you can not honestly play. So, you are purposeful, and forgive me, meanly, you are going to destroy the relationship. In other words, you will hurt him. But when they love, they wish for happiness. Not with you. Just happiness. So, maybe this is not love at all. Besides, let's say you still make him stop loving the other and be with you. You can not live peacefully, because you will always know that if you could take him away from her, then another one is the same, infinitely in love, it will be able to take him away from you. And can you call a happy life when you constantly feel fear? Answer these questions and think again about the "release" option.

Scenario two: he loves her, she does not. Here everything looks a lot rosier and more promising. At first sight. Of course, you can show that you are a true friend, that you understand him, ready to help and support that it is better not to find anyone. Over time, he will forget her and understand that you are perfect. Unfortunately, mostly this happens only in movies. In real life, the percentage of such an outcome is negligible. Of course, you can still risk it, but remember that it is possible that you will suffer, because we will not achieve the result you so expect.

Because, more often than not, love does not pass so quickly. And if a person suffers from an undivided feeling, one who at that moment offers him his love simply becomes a substitute, a way to forget, to cause jealousy. Even if your loved one sincerely tries to build a relationship, it's far from the fact that he will succeed. The fact is that with the help of you he will forcefully eradicate himself from feelings for the other. And violence causes irritation and hatred. And all this negative, sooner or later, it will throw out in your direction. And then you will be hurt hundreds of times. After all, you have already given him your soul, and he turned out to be an ungrateful pig. Worse still, he will eventually forget his past feelings and fall in love. But not you. A completely extraneous girl, who does not even know about all his recent emotional upheavals. Actually, even to blame it is not for that. Because, in most cases, between the one and the second love there must be a transition, a bridge, which makes you move away from one edge and set foot on the other. You can stand on the bridge for a long time. But there was still no one to live there. It's insulting, annoying, but true.

And now let us recall the most painful and unpleasant scenario: I, my friend and he. That's really a problem. The little man to whom you were always ready to tell everything, makes you angry. You want to stop hating her. And you can not. After all, you already fell in love! You want to tell everything, but you do not have enough strength. In this case, probably, the most problem can be the relationship with a friend. Think about whether you are ready to fight against her, in fact, spoil her life. If so, then yes, and not just a friend. And if not. Then you should tell her everything. I'm sure she already feels that something is going wrong, she suspects, but she does not dare to speak out loud. And she's worried. Therefore, it is best to talk about cleanliness and decide what to do.

A real friend will understand, because you can not order your heart. And if she condemns you, then this person is not worthy of the high rank of "friend". You can trust the word, after such a conversation it will become easier. Let not a lot, but still easier. And even if you decide to move away for a while, she will know the reason, and not get lost in conjecture and worry. After all, still, no matter how much we love, as if not experienced, but often it happens that the guys come and go, but friendship remains forever.