How not to be jealous of the husband to the past?

You understand perfectly well that it's silly to be jealous of the past of a beloved man, but still you can not cope with your feelings. Actually, this is normal. The main thing is not to go too far and know which situation really should be watched. About how not to be jealous of the husband to the past for nothing, but to be able to recognize really disturbing signals, and we will talk below.

If you constantly doubt the masculine sincerity, worry that sooner or later he will certainly return to his former, it will definitely deprive your relationship of even a single chance for duration and strength. First of all you need to understand, you are jealous of the husband to the past without an excuse, or there is an occasion all the same. There are a number of points on which it would be worth paying special attention.

Conversations.

What can cause real fear? For example, if the husband is constantly, at any convenient and not very often remembers his ex-girlfriend. Trying the soup, notes that Natasha (Olya, Marina) added less potatoes and more salt, they say, so tastier. Going on holiday in Turkey, her husband in very small details begins to describe how he rested there once with her. Such stories are always a bad sign. He, most likely, in fact still thinks about the former. However, it also happens that you got a unique man who sincerely believes that it's interesting for you to listen. He can not put any special meaning into his stories, although this is silly, in any case.

Meetings.

The situation, of course, is unpleasant, but not uncommon-many former lovers continue to communicate even after parting and how they will acquire their own families. To panic beforehand and frantically to be jealous of the husband it is not necessary - friendship between the man and the woman really exists. Here it is important to pay attention to a number of small details: how long does your husband spend with his "former", whether their meetings are held alone or in the company of friends, whether the faithful has bothered to acquaint her with you. Perhaps their relationship will indeed prove harmless. Then only you decide whether to force a man to break them completely.

Circle of friends.

If your husband and his ex-husband have a circle of common friends, then, even after parting with her, he is unlikely to break off relations with them. And to demand this is the height of selfishness. A husband will certainly introduce you to his company, which will help you to make sure personally that nothing dangerous for your family relationships there does not happen. But if the husband does not do this - then there will be a real reason to worry. Perhaps meeting with friends is only an excuse for your lover to see the ex-girlfriend.

Second family.

If your husband has already been married before, then the reason for jealousy is a very serious one. It's not just some girl with whom he seems to have had a relationship, even if it's lasting and serious. A man can have many reasons to continue communicating with an ex-wife even after the divorce. The most important of them, of course, are common children. If a man wants to take an active part in the education of his children, then contact with the former wife can not be avoided. It is even possible that he will aspire to spend some part of his free time (sometimes even holidays, vacations and holidays) with the former family. But you must understand. That the husband wants to spend time with children, and not with his wife, so that there is absolutely no point in becoming jealous. If you are not ready to accept such communication, your relationship is unlikely to ever become peaceful and harmonious.

However, it also happens that the men do not have children from the previous marriage, but the contact with the ex-wife, nevertheless, he supports. You, of course, can not with full confidence assert that his feelings have not faded to this day, but to be calm in this situation is not easy. Okay, it would be more if communication is reduced only to a greeting card for the holiday and to rare phone calls. But if your man aspires on the first call to run to help his ex-wife, explaining this by the fact that she is so uneasy, so lonely - it can already at least alert. Be sure to talk frankly with your loved one, explain to him that such behavior hurts you, causes anxiety. If even after the conversation nothing changes, it's time to seriously think about whether it's worth ... Why? Usually, when a man enters into a new relationship, he in his past relationships puts all the points above i . If this point is not there, then it is unlikely that it will already appear.

That was.

There are such men who, after breaking up a relationship with their beloved girl in a new relationship, tend to do the opposite. They simply find a woman suitable for her criteria, to which no particular strong feelings are experienced. They believe that it is easier to build relationships and easier to survive the gap in case of failure. For any "normal" person parting is an opportunity to reflect and analyze their failed relationships. But such men blame all blame for strong feelings, so the next link is not built with a loved one, but with a sincere love. On the one hand, it is selfish, on the other - such a relationship, oddly enough, is indeed often the most harmonious and strong. It is in the absence of feelings that a man is easier to reconcile with the fact that he does not like the behavior of a woman, he does not so jealously restrict her personal freedom.

To be or not to be.

Of course, we all want reciprocity. It is not easy to realize that a man is still drawn to his ex. Do you really need to try to build relationships in this case - the question is complex and the answer depends on your willpower and specific situation. Some opponents stop appearing, others, on the contrary, provoke them, forcing them to act more actively. Others simply perceive such an unrequited love of a man as an ordinary flaw, and they love their husband as he is. In any case, such strange relations can easily turn into warm and trustworthy. So, if you are clearly convinced that your man is worth it, why not try to fight for your happiness?