And suddenly there is one unpleasant problem: either the desire to completely evaporate somewhere, or intimacy is no longer any pleasure. In a word, sex did not go back. He is no longer drawn to her, or vice versa, she is not drawn to him. The heat of passion weakens, the severity of the relationship is blunted. Such cases, unfortunately millions, if not more. But this in the future can serve as a serious reason for parting.
So what happened? Where are the old passionate kisses and hot embraces? Are all the joys and pleasures far behind and will never return? And how to return the passion to a woman after giving birth? Usually this happens during the first one, two months after pregnancy. But there are, unfortunately, cases when sexual desire disappears for a rather long period of up to 6-7 months or more. And what kind of sex can there be, when all attention is focused on the child.
There are several reasons for this and they can be divided into two large groups: physiological and psychological. The first can include: hormonal changes in the body, breastfeeding, fatigue, changing the figure; to the second: depression, changing the way of life, giving the child the main role in the family.
Let's consider some ways how to return passion to women after childbirth.
First, a woman should talk with her husband heart to heart. Tell us about your problems, worries, fears. Such a conversation helps to understand each other and will make some clarity in further relations. And do not hesitate in questions: the more clearly they will be given, the better will be resolved.
Secondly, it is necessary for a woman to unload herself a little. It is necessary to call for additional reinforcement in the person of parents, husband and other relatives in caring for the baby. Excessive help in this situation will not hurt. And more to enjoy the benefits of humanity.
Third, get enough sleep. Since the child requires close attention to himself day and night, it is difficult to do. It is necessary to try to lay down together with the kid and after a while the young mother will feel much better.
Fourth, pay attention to yourself. Often a woman, carried away by raising a child, completely forgets about herself and does not care about her appearance. For a while, leave the baby in the care of her husband or parents, and visit the beauty salon. Life immediately replenishes with new colors and sensations.
Fifthly, enjoy every minute, even if you have 5-10 minutes left. It is more to be together and pay attention to each other.
Sixth, to relieve family relations. More thinking about how beautiful life was before the birth of a child, and what better it became with his appearance. Try to extract positive qualities even in the worst situation.
And, finally, seventhly, in no case do not panic. Yes, there are some changes in appearance and in consciousness, sometimes even unpleasant. But this all goes away with time. Although not immediately, this, above all, depends on the characteristics of the organism of each woman.
Husbands should also be vigilant and take some measures to return the former passion to the relationship. It is worth the care and attention to your wives as much as possible. First of all, unload your half in household chores. And on the day off, you should go for a walk with the whole family. And it is desirable that the wife is a little dressed up and made up. This will positively affect both health and mood. You should not rush your faithful into intimate affinity, for some time after the birth of the child, it is better to have patience and wait. And start your husband, you need slowly and without fuss, it's nice for the first time, it's better with a massage, gradually getting to your wife's favorite caresses. Even if you have to interrupt because the baby is awake, do not despair and continue with the same perseverance, calmness, warmth and tenderness. You can share with each other some fantasies. Or a little change the situation. After all, as you know, changes, even small ones, lead only to the best. According to many sexologists return interest to each other under the power of each pair. And if there is love left, then you need to take the initiative and act.
Considered solutions to some extent help restore the former passion after childbirth. And most importantly, what you need to believe is that all the difficulties of an intimate life are temporary. Also, expensive women should be aware that caress, attention and care are needed not only for the child, but also for his father. A woman should sometimes find time for her husband, pay attention to her appearance. And most importantly, dear women, what should be remembered: LOVE and PATIENCE will help restore the passion to a woman, overcome any obstacles and difficulties, and the new family life will be no worse than it was. And even better!