It is sad to hear from a young man or a girl: "I will not have a family, because everything is fine at first, but people soon swear and divorce, and there is simply no guarantee that it will be different for me." Mutual relations of parents form the core of children's perception of feelings, and in particular of love. If the house is often spoken in high-pitched tones, or shouted, if the child always hears irritated intonations in his voice, then he will consider this a completely acceptable style when communicating people who love each other. Those who grew up in such an atmosphere, then it will be difficult to build an ordinary relationship in their family. Someone duplicates the parent scenario: he constantly lives in conflicts. Others - just can not stand and divorce, however, creating the new family, make the same mistakes. Still others prefer to live alone, fearing grief and resentment, they do not know how to return family happiness.
All of us want to love and be loved, live in a happy seed, have a reliable rear. However, it turns out only to those who do not forget the main rules of love and know how to return family happiness.
The law of trust.
For example, Vika was worried when her husband lingered at work for a long time. She thought that the reason might be in a woman. Therefore, Vika always listened to the phone conversations of her husband, periodically arranged interrogations. Igor also very jealously looked at his wife's attempts to go to a cosmetologist or to aerobics. I secretly read her diary, sometimes I studied the contents of my purse.
In such a family, the credit of trust has long been exhausted. For a truly loving marriage relationship, trust is simply vital. If it does not exist, one person begins to be suspicious, restless, and the other turns out to be in an emotional trap: it seems to him that his freedom is lost. In this case, to return family happiness is difficult. Therefore, you need to learn to trust your beloved, and the relationship itself.
The law of open communication.
Oleg and Christina have been married for more than three years. At first there were both passion and love. However, only one year passed, and the relationship became more even: Christina often began to take offense at her husband only because he did not guess her desires (she loved roses, and not carnations); she was annoyed that Oleg flirts with her when she has a lot to do. However, about all this, Christina never told her husband, and he could not understand the true causes of Kristin's insults.
A common mistake among the newlyweds: they believe that for a happy life in the family, only love will be enough. However, love is not an artificial rose, which does not need care. It is like a real living plant - it can blossom, but can wither. It all depends on how he is looked after. Open communication for love, like pure water for a plant - without it, you can not survive. Always tell each other about personal desires and feelings, you do not need to destroy family happiness, because potto return it will not be easy. Be sure to talk about how you love and appreciate her husband - do not be afraid to praise him. And do not take a good attitude for granted. Be able to thank me!
The law of gift.
Lyudmila, as she remembered, had increased demands on men. She always wanted a husband caring, loving, affectionate, with an apartment, car, passionate, etc., etc. Lyudmila did not even come to mind: what can she give to a chosen one. She thought: "If he loves me, then I will take care of him." But Lyudmila is still lonely, she recently turned 35.
To meet true love, you must first disinterestedly and sincerely give a piece of yourself. In the event that you want to receive love, you need to give it. And the more you give, the more you will receive. Love, like a boomerang, will return in any case. Though not always from the person you gave it to. However, will return a hundredfold! And do not forget: the stock of love is unlimited for all of us. And the only way to lose true love is not to give it to others. Family happiness is based on trust.
However, the problem is that some people do not want to give first, they love with certain reservations: "I will love you only if you love me." Wait until someone takes the first step, so they can not find family happiness. It's like a musician will say: "I will play, after my guests start to dance." True love does not require anything in return.
The law of touch.
Larissa and Dima clearly divided the duties among themselves. Larissa was washing, preparing, cleaning. Dima earned money. They talked to each other only about everyday life. Sex was only on schedule - no unplanned touch and embrace. To tell the truth, at first Dima tried to play pranks with his wife at unseasoned hours, but she always stopped it. As it turned out later, Larissa never played with her parents when she was a child; The embrace of her family was also not accepted.
Any touch is one of the most sensual manifestations of love on which family happiness is built. It strengthens relationships and breaks down barriers. For the resumption of a normal atmosphere in the family, psychological practice recommends a special training: more often hug the partner just like that, without any sexual motive; you have to be naughty like children; everyone has to hold hands like young lovers. By the way, "disciples" say that this is the most difficult homework in their life.
Once, in one of the clinics in London, an experiment was conducted. In the evening, before the operation, the surgeon, as a rule, visited his patient to, in general, talk about the upcoming event and answer the questions of interest to the patient. And during the experiment, the doctor during the conversation held the patient's hand. It should be noted that such a patient recovered three times faster than others.
When you carefully touch someone, your physiology also changes: the emotional state improves, the nervous system relaxes, the level of stress hormones decreases, and immunity strengthens. Smart people say: if you do not gently embrace a minimum of eight people during the day, you are simply doomed to illness. You can restore family happiness by simply touching it.
The law of freedom.
Vitaly and Natasha have married recently. Everything was amazing. However, after a while, Natasha felt that her husband was trying to manage it: he imposed his own opinion, took decisions for it. If she does her own way, he is very frantic and scolds her for hours as a child. However, Natasha thinks that she is quite an adult and is able to make most decisions herself.
If you love a person, then grant him complete freedom. Freedom in choice, freedom to live exactly as he wants. Of course, this is quite difficult. However, there is no other way out. To restore family happiness - just give freedom. After all, in order not to feel trapped, everyone needs a personal space .