"Oh, soon there will be a thunder in the middle of the clear sky ..." - you see, looking at the way a boss rushes past you, like a terrible tornado, while quickly dropping: "Come to my office !!!". But sometimes it happens that the signs of the strongest anger are not so visible ... Even as a child, we were scolded for the purpose of punishing, not teaching. It is for this reason that the eyebrows of the chef bring into our soul fear and confusion. Let's discuss this all in visual situations.
Petrel of Anger
Situation No. 1: "So love passed ..."
There are times when a subordinate "lives" with his bosses "soul in the soul": they can chat absolutely on all topics behind a cup of coffee (even a personal plan that does not concern the work plan), together to experience creative rise and decline. In a word, to help each other, find outlets from all difficult situations. But at one point everything can come a sharp end ... The boss begins to move away and put the line between the "subordinate" and the "boss", holding in the moments of the conversation more drier and more critical. Is it really a sign that you are going to be fired?
Psychologist's comment
This problem is most often characteristic of creative individuals: such people are characterized by increased emotionality and sensitivity to the psychological climate that reigns in the workplace. From this it also appears that the euphoria of mutual "love" can be sharply replaced by complete despair from "extinct feelings". Let's try to clarify this situation in more detail. First, they go to work to do business, not to be friends and not to "fall in love" anymore! And secondly, democracy is not synonymous with rapprochement. Seeing how you are friendly with the authorities, your colleagues will want the same. And then goodbye discipline, subordination. That's why the head and tried to return (atonchnee put) you in place.
What to do? Of course, continue to work further! And do not go into the delicate matter of informal relations with the boss. And for the future, it should be taken into account that this very friendship with the boss comes out to himself!
Situation No. 2: "Ato her, atu!"
Many of us are familiar with this situation when you come to work "out of the street", accidentally learning about the competition opened a new vacancy. Convinced by the high leadership in your suitability and competence, you go through all the "circles of hell", called interviews. But your immediate boss met you unhappily and wary. And you are now doomed to work in the workplace routine, and everything that you have done lends itself to immediate criticism and meets with an acidic mine. Yes, and for the ideas he praises, alas, not you, Avashi colleagues! What is the reason for this attitude? And most importantly, how can the situation be remedied?
Psychologist's comment
Of course, you can not wait to talk about purity: for such a boss the game of "silence" is a kind of tactic of the "survival" of an employee who is not pleased. By the way, who can be an excellent specialist, so his formal dismissal is not permissible. What you in such a situation did not please the boss is difficult to predict. Perhaps you just encroached on the nest that was prepared for someone else?
What to do? It's unlikely that you will be able to build your career here. It is best for you to look for a "spare airfield" in parallel. It is possible, of course, to deploy a guerrilla war against an adversary, but its result, as a rule, is unpredictable. If you are satisfied with your salary, work further, despite the sour throat of the boss. Avot all your suggestions better to save for better times: the day will come when you can realize them, and the higher leadership will certainly support you.
Situation No. 3: "Roadside Testing"
There are cases when the attitude to you from the bosses is simple: you are entrusted with all important projects, etc. But it is "suddenly" that your boss starts to tightly control: every time you specify what and when you are going to do, find out for what reasons and where you have gone for five minutes. And more often it does it for eyes, for example, being interested in this trick. What is the essence of such a sharp denial of trust?
Psychologist's comment
You probably know for yourselves what is the reason for the changed behavior of the boss, about your person: you simply have been trusted. Why did it happen so? If your conscience is clear, pay attention to colleagues. Perhaps one of them wants to take your place? Or is your location simply a feeling of envy? Here also there could go a hearing, that you, for example, earn additionally on one of competing parties.
What to do? Trying to justify or resent is not enough to help. The best tactic is to pretend that you have not noticed anything. Strong control strains? Treat all mockingly, condescendingly. As life experience shows, making sure in your honesty, all the alarming symptoms will disappear on their own.
Situation No. 4: "The dead with braids standing. And silence…"
In the office there are huge changes associated with the reduction. But you always manage to cope with your work and in time to submit it to the desk. But the chief constantly avoided meeting you, and during the meeting in the corridor, greeting through his teeth and trying to slip past quickly.
Psychologist's comment
It's not about your personal result, but in team work. And you, judging by the reaction of the boss, one of the candidates for the flight. Therefore, you still need to switch to an individual form of struggle.
What to do? Do you have a good performance? It's time to say it out loud. Support the conversation with a document that confirms your value for the organization and is ahead. Sometimes it even promotes career growth!
"Thunderstorm in early May"
Is the chief's anger always bad? After all, after the storm, everything, as the rule, everything is getting better: statements and claims clarify the atmosphere. Here are just this point you need to follow certain rules that will help you after the storm to see the sun:
Completely deny the truth . Because of this, you show your pride and look in the eyes of the boss uncontrollable employee.
Sitting with a martyr-like expression . The chief can decide that you are not going to undertake a vybich to smooth the situation. It is better to show interest in correcting the situation.
Fall in the legs of the pitches . Do not constantly apologize. And better try to explain what you need to consider. By the way, if you see that the boss is in some way wrong, in an adult way and politely tell him about it.
Translate to others . This is not only ugly, but also irresponsible. Plus, the whole team will respect you.
And the last. We are accustomed to always cautiously pass the chekabinet boss, but foreign managers believe that criticism is always appropriate. It is she who is able to motivate a person to new achievements. "They scold me, it means that I am capable of the greatest!" They assert. Can it still be worth us and try to adopt their attitude to the chief's anger?