How to teach a child to share?

When there are several children in the family, the problem of "property" is incredibly aggravated. Especially often it happens when the difference between the age of the youngest and the older child is not too big: for example, the elder from 2 to 4 years, and the youngest is only six months old. The younger, of course, wants to touch the things of his brother or sister, because it is so interesting, exciting and unusual, and the elder eager and does not want to share. The younger can not ask for a toy by himself, but the elder either does not understand why he should give his things, or simply does not want to share. In such moments, between children begins the struggle of interests and characters. Of course, during periods of disagreement between children and parents, it will not be easy, but it should be understood that such processes contribute to the development of babies. Parents should not be afraid of such moments in the lives of their children and assume that the kids are too moody and disobedient. It should be understood that selecting toys from each other, kids learn to share expensive things for themselves, find a common language in a closed space, and also begin to understand that parents belong to not one child in the family, but to both of them. When parents help their kids to solve problems peacefully, they teach them, showing that their relatives should live in harmony and find compromises.

Sometimes, of course, conflicts between children reach such extremes that even parents do not know how to get out of the situation correctly. The most correct decision that parents can take during the quarrels of children is to cut them off at the earliest stages so that they do not get into the habit. For the best result, you need to adhere to several stages, which we will now consider.

The first stage: reduce the probability of disputes and disagreements between children, to the very minimum. Talk to the older child on the topic of toys and, if possible, divide them into those that are most like and dear to him, and those toys that a younger one can take to play.

Try to make sure that with your favorite toys, the older child plays where the younger one would not see them and could not take them. For example, arrange a toy corner in another room, or let it play at a time when the youngest is sleeping.

Those toys that can be easily broken or damaged, hide altogether, since this, firstly, is not safe, and secondly, on this ground, between the children there can be another quarrel.

However, this stage will not help parents to get rid of disputes between children, but will only reduce their number.

The second stage: during each quarrel, try to reassure your kids, explaining to them that there should not be such conflicts between close people. First of all, have a conversation with the eldest child. Tell him that the younger wants to play with his toys only because he is interested, and not because he wants to anger the elder brother or sister in every way. You can try to figure out what exactly causes irritation and anger in the older child. Only by learning to understand others and put yourself in another place, your child will be ready for stage 3 - to find a solution.

The third stage: look for your children with a variety of ways that you can solve the problem. You, as a parent, can offer several of your options, but it's best if the kid also thinks about the problem and tells you his ways of solving the problem. The more children will be involved in this process, the more likely it is that next time children will know how to behave, they can, without the help of their parents, make a decision and find a way out of the situation.

Also, the older child must learn to say "no" to a younger, patiently and calm voice.

Of course, children do not necessarily spend all the time together, playing together, but it is sometimes necessary. Parents can arrange everything so that the children will be in one place, but they will be engaged in different businesses. In order for the children to get used to doing something together, at first you can join the game to them and play three of them.