How to teach a child to sleep separately

Sleep, falling asleep, the rituals of putting each child individually. Everything depends on the age, the personality, character and temperament of the child, the situation in the family, the health of the child and the style of parenting.

Many children under 3 years of age require a lot of physical contact, they calm down only when they feel the warmth of the mother's body, breathing. Therefore, these children need to be taught to sleep no earlier than 3 years, that is, from the age when the child is forming self-reliance.

The style of upbringing in the family also affects the rituals of falling asleep. For example, when the mother insists that the child must sleep alone, but the grandmother does not, shakes, puts the child for a long time, puts it with him, the child will long ask to fall off with his mother and abandon his crib.

If you are still sure that the time has come and your child can fall asleep quickly, sleep alone and sleep for a long time, you need to perform a few basic things:

1. Before going to sleep do not play active games.
2. The child should know that you are determined and if you are told that he will sleep alone, then you must fulfill this promise.
3. Before going to bed, strictly follow the same actions (the so-called ritual before going to bed) - for example, we go to wash, dress pajamas, say goodbye to toys, put next to your favorite toy, read one small fairy tale, turn to the barrel, close our eyes.
4. Go to bed at the same time.
5. The positive attitude to the crib as a place to sleep is of great importance for the baby, especially if you together bought bed linen with a children's drawing, put together together.
6. Sit a little near, stroke, hold the handle.

The first time will be difficult, but if you will coordinate all actions and clearly perform, then after a while (2-3 weeks usually) the child begins to sleep alone.

Another condition is that everyone in the family is set up in the same way as you are, all follow the rules of sleep and strict regime. In the house there is a quiet and friendly atmosphere.

What if the child has terrible dreams?

The reasons for this behavior of the child may be several. This is the situation in the family (quarrels, divorce, strained relations between spouses, illness or death of relatives), and the nature of the character, the personality of the child, the confluence of unfavorable life circumstances. The child could also experience a lot of stress, could be frightened of something, and you might not notice it. Intermittent sleep, restless may also be a consequence of neurosis.

Assess the situation in the family - maybe something happens that brings the child experience, that his psyche can not be recycled and protected. Find out what exactly the child and the character or the situation can have to tell you what the child is experiencing during the day.

Before you beat the alarm, try to calm yourself, because the more restless the child behaves in a dream, the more anxious becomes the mother of what happens to her child. As soon as the child wakes up at night, calmly approach him, stroke over the head, whisper nice words, take in your hands and shake. For the boys, it is important to protect the father, so talk to your dad so that he gives the child more attention. Give the child the opportunity to play more in the afternoon, as inadequate play activity may be one of the reasons for concern.

How to train a big one to sleep

There is also such a problem: many parents complain that the child is going to school soon, and he is running to his parents' bedroom. Usually this is already a problem in the nature of the parents themselves. The child enjoys your gentleness and lack of perseverance, especially when the expressed fears and anxieties of the child are not observed.

Therefore, in order to teach a child to fall asleep on his own, and even in his room, you need:

1. Demonstrate perseverance and say that "the girl (boy) you already have quite a lot of (oh) and you need to behave like an adult, so we'll start by saying that you'll sleep alone (and) only in your room."
2. To do this, of course, you need to gradually, but persistently, to make it clear that you are firmly set. Promise that sometimes, for example, on Saturdays, the child will fall asleep with you. Since, maybe, a child does not have enough physical contact with his parents during the day, and he is trying to compensate for this in this way.
3. In other areas of the child's activity, one should also encourage independence and the manifestation of adulthood, activity. Be sure to praise for it.

Think about whether you do not underestimate the age of the child, do not you think it is less than the age that is at the moment. After all, children often feel themselves in accordance with the age at which parents emphasize.

Leave a night lamp, give us a toy. If a child comes to you at night, take him to the crib, sit a little, but with him you should not leave.

If you do everything gradually, correctly and show perseverance, then quite a dream in your bed will be adjusted.

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