In any relationship, even the most hot and passionate, there may come a temporary cooling. Sometimes the chill between partners passes by itself, but there are cases when grievances and mutual discontent are growing every day, resulting in a rupture. So what to do if you feel that the relationship is not quite the same as it was just recently? Love has become a habit, passion has disappeared, you are moving away from each other, disappearing more and more ...
If you really value your relationship, it's worth fighting for them. And in order to overcome the temporary crisis, try to revive your relationship, make something completely new or well forgotten old.
Express your feelings
Even in spite of the fact that you have been together for a long time and everyone is sure of the sincere feelings of the other, one more time to say about your love will not hurt. Call each other affectionate words, talk about your feelings.
Over time, people become so used to each other that less attention is paid to the appearance. That's why it's very important to compliment each other. It is always pleasant and gives some incentive to become even better and more beautiful, and like your partner.
Call interest
People who live together for a long time, learn about each other absolutely everything. Some people like it, but many lose interest. Do so that your beloved begins to admire you and again be surprised. You can start with the exterior, for example, change your hair. It would be nice to update the wardrobe, paying special attention to underwear. It will be even better if you sign up for a dance or do something similar. For sure, it will bring some interest and mystery in the relationship and help your partner discover something new in you.
Show tenderness
Be gentle with each other. Respect and affection is very good, but remember that you are not friends, but first of all husband and wife, so do not forget about kisses and gentle touches. By the way, some psychologists believe that men who are kissed by their wives in the morning before leaving for work, live on average a year longer than those who do not.
Jealousy as a seasoning
People are by their very nature owners. Your partner, probably already used to you and thinks that you will not get anywhere. On this occasion you can recall a small anecdote: Before the wedding, the bride and groom say to each other: "I like you only", and after "You like me only".
That's why, if you've been together for a long time, you have to watch yourself even more than when you first met. If you are irresistible, other men will start paying attention to you. This will make her husband look at you with different eyes and fall in love again. Only with jealousy, the main thing is not to overdo it, especially if your partner is too jealous.
Look for common interests
Look closely, perhaps you have no common hobbies. Show interest in her husband's activities, try to take part in his hobby. It's not a bad idea to come up with some kind of common occupation that will entice you both.
Spend time together
Probably, the majority of ordinary married couples who have lived together for a long time, so different from the newlyweds, that rarely go on dates or do not do it at all. It should not be. In order for the relationship to be brighter and more interesting, you should attend various events, concerts, go to the movies, go to a cafe, just walk together or with friends. This is how people live, whose relationships are just beginning. And you, probably, can even from outside notice, what interest they test to each other and as it together is good and cheerful.
Make romantic dates
Just imagine how surprised your husband, if you come from work, he will see you beautiful, in a seductive outfit. In the room will burn candles and play romantic music. After dinner in an intimate setting, you will dance for him. Even if you do not have a special talent in dancing, you can enroll in strip-plastics courses, watch videos on the Internet, and you will succeed. Believe me, your partner will definitely appreciate such a surprise.
Give each other presents and surprises
Over time, many people stop being attentive to each other. You do not need to wait for any holiday or birthday to make a person a surprise or present a gift. Do not you like how your beloved is happy ?! Be sure to listen to his words. Everyone casually in conversation still mentions what he would like. Loved one will be very pleased if you listen carefully to him, noting all the details of what was said, and then turning them into pleasant gifts and surprises.
Communicate with each other
Take time to communicate with each other. Find a minute to talk every day, ask your loved one about successes and problems. Listen to your partner. If you rarely talk heart to heart, you risk moving away from each other.
It is very good, if during communication you will remember pleasant and amusing moments that occurred in your life. It will bring you closer and remind you how good you can be together.
Each person should have a personal space
Spending time together is, of course, good, but you do not need to go to extremes. Trust your beloved, you do not need to control every step of it. And you, and he should not only have much in common, but also something personal.
Diversify intimate life
So the world is arranged, that in an intimate relationship can not always rage passions. Over time, people get used to each other, the desire for permanent sex is lost. Instead of trying to revive the relationship somehow and find the cause of the cooling, many immediately start to think that the partner has someone else.
In the decline of sexual activity, in no case can not blame a man, since such statements hurt the male psyche. There is a risk that your man, having heard the claims and reproaches, will go to the side to seek solace.
Remember, relationships can not always be the same. The passion that arises at the beginning of a relationship, in the future, is transformed into trust, the desire to be near and feel each other. Only with time does a man stop thinking that the ability to have sex always and everywhere raises him in the female eyes.
If sex from several times a day began to happen 4-5 times a week, and you do not like it, do not immediately seek a new partner. Try to look for reasons, maybe your loved one is very tired or something is bothering him. Make a variety in sex life, make your loved one an erotic massage, dance, apply all your charms.
Remember that most people's relationships are crumbling due to the fact that they do not know how or do not want to solve their problems, can not move to a new stage, instead, throwing themselves into new adventures.