Pregnancy is one of the most beautiful periods in a woman's life. But even here there is a "fly in the ointment": sometimes a future mother begins to overcome the thoughts of a possible betrayal of a loved one.
Let's try to answer the most serious questions: is it possible and in the "interesting" position to remain sexually attractive to a loved one and how will changes in the way of life affect a marriage?
As a rule, changes during pregnancy are particularly feared by women expecting the first child. Their fear is due to the fact that the young family is in a new situation for themselves, and it is difficult to predict how a man behaves in the context of temporary sexual restraints. After all, before this relationship, the couple did not know any barriers - they were fully committed to each other. In addition, a pregnant woman often begins to worry, watching how her figure ceases to conform to model standards day after day. Unfortunately, the problem of cheating during pregnancy does exist. At first glance, it may seem that the reason for them is that the husband simply does not have enough of the previous sexual relations. But such an answer is only the tip of the iceberg ...
REASONS FOR CHANGES
Although most couples have no contraindications to the continuation of sexual relations during pregnancy, it is impossible for spouses to pretend that everything is as before. Against the background of hormonal adjustment, the former activity of intimate life can noticeably decrease. And if everything is normal with hormones, then there is a psychological factor - the fear of harming a developing child. And this fear can appear in both partners. In addition, the wife due to weight gain disappears the former mobility and reduced emancipation - the dimensions are not the same. All these changes occur gradually, and even if there is less love in the family, in the depth of the woman's soul, doubts arise: does sex suffice for a husband, does he want to have a more slender and elegant body than a pregnant wife ... Because of These (mostly made-up) fears of pregnant women are beginning to change the psychological mood. There are suspicions, jealousy, and many even go to "fighting", arranging hysteria and scandals for her husband. In such a difficult situation, even the most persistent man will involuntarily think about the opportunity to translate, as a rule, groundless suspicions of the wife into life.
There is another reason that can provoke betrayal during pregnancy - the unwillingness to have children. For parenting you need to mature - and mutually: the issue of procreation should be decided consciously. When people marry, they need to discuss in advance such a seemingly natural "detail", as a continuation of the family. Maybe this topic was touched on, but in passing: the woman thought that the conversation was about "fast" children, and the man - that of a distant future. Even despite the conscious desire of the spouses to have children, the adoption of a specific decision and the process of waiting for the child become a serious stress, because it is not about buying a car or buying fish, but about a responsible step, the most important and irrevocable in life. Women experience this stress much easier, because nature itself is on their side, forcing so strongly to love an unborn child that no fears can become a hindrance. With men, things are different ...
LOOK FOR UNDERSTANDING
The solution to any problem begins with a frank conversation. Without honesty and trust, the family boat risks very soon to break up on the rocks of suspicion and the stones of uncertainty in the future. Try to reach a full empathy in the dialogue. Call your husband more often mentally to get in your place: he must understand that you now need caresses and compliments much more than at the time of romantic meetings. You are now very vulnerable and sensitive: the task of the spouse is to help you endure a healthy and calm child. And most importantly, do not forget that without his help you will find it difficult to manage. With the tact that is characteristic of women, help her husband to feel and realize herself as the true head of the family. And, of course, try to resist reproaches that he is not interested in you, does not pay due attention, and even looks at women. He, of course, tries, but in his own way, and he is very upset that his efforts are not appreciated. Otherwise, the man at best will stop trying, and at worst - will really begin to pay attention to the opposite sex.
NEW LIMITS OF CLOSE
Prior to the onset of pregnancy, the prioritization of family life was somewhat different - usually sexual. And now the time has come when it is possible to greatly enrich the old way of life. Be grateful for the temporary "incapacity", because it will strengthen another important aspect of life - your Platonic love. Perceive this time of limitations as another milestone in the relationship, remember that you have other common interests, except for the bed, and if there are not so many, then try to find them. Unconditional plus of sexual relations consists that people really become closer to each other and feel themselves native, therefore the termination of a tactile contact at pregnancy in a root is incorrect. On the contrary, at this time the spouses need to touch each other as often as possible, to do a relaxing massage, in order not to break the thread of intimacy that connects them. The future mother is important to remember that even in an "interesting" position, she still remains a woman. Caring for your body - now it needs it more than ever.
HELP YOUR HUSBAND AGAIN
Yes, he rejoices every day the growing tummy, but still does not feel what is happening to the extent that the woman can. He has less time, because he must work for the benefit of the family. Even if the husband does not let go of your hand all nine months, he is still far from what you are experiencing, because nobody is pushing him inside ... So, one of the most important tasks for the future mother is to instil a love for the child before the child shine. To prepare a man you need gradually and without pressure, so as not to discourage his enthusiasm ... Talk about the future of your children. Only not about what the baby will be, but about what you can do for him. By the way, even in the womb of the mother, the baby already distinguishes well the voices of relatives. Tell your husband about the reactions of the child: they are very different - both positive and negative. Put your husband's hand on your stomach and act as a mediator between two relatives, introducing them to each other. Yes, adultery happens during pregnancy, but this does not mean that a similar story will happen with you.
Waiting for motherhood is a bright period in the life of any woman, and to cloud it with unhappy thoughts is simply silly. To overcome all difficulties to the spouses will help mutual trust and the common desire for a happy future of the family.