After all, it is not so much a whip for the free will of man, as a carrot, leading to the simplest and most pleasant life decisions.
Here, for example, love triangles. From the point of view of morals, this is an unacceptable way of relations between a man and a woman. However, few people remember about morality, when passion covers with the head, although many later regret it. The love triangle is one of the most unstable formations in the relationship between the sexes. Psychologists say that love for three does not last long and rarely brings happiness and luck. Usually, three people with broken hearts, who have acquired a sea of neuroses and complexes, are immediately at the exit. For women or men looking for a long-term relationship, attempts to join the fight for an already established partner are altogether ridiculous. This is definitely not the path to happiness, and yet many come to him, believing that they can circumvent the "rake" that has been repeatedly verified by other people.
The principles of morality in relations between the sexes often go completely to the back burner, if it concerns a high-status person. Both men and women who have reached the heights in the profession, rich, held, with the resources of the authorities or famous, often become victims of hunting by lovers of easy and beautiful life. It is not for nothing that they say that the way upward reminds one of the path to loneliness: the higher you rise, the less remains around loyal and devoted people. So it's not so easy for rich people to find a suitable partner for themselves, as it may seem. After all, they are often shown love and disposition not because of themselves, but because of the money and connections that the husband or partner of a rich person can access.
In modern Russia, it is not at all easy to observe any kind of moral principles. In the public mind now everything is turned upside down. Empty and uninteresting girls with an idle way of life find themselves the most influential oligarchs, while decent and interesting ladies can remain alone for years. The thieving and insolent people are the main heroes of the secular chronicle and the main party-goers of the richest resorts. People who simply do their job well remain in the shadows. In this situation it is not easy to remain yourself.
Sometimes he tempts to spit on morality, trample down his crystal honesty and start all the hard. Unfortunately, rarely this is the way to happiness. The fall to the bottom of an antisocial and immoral life destroys our psyche and the system of habitual values of life. And fashionable now cynicism and denial of moral norms is often a sign of mental disorder or neurosis, a protective reaction to unfavorable circumstances and the absence of warm relations with anyone. It is very important to save one's self in a situation of complex moral choice. And especially this is critical for the situation when you want to achieve harmony in relations with the opposite sex.
Philosopher and psychologist William James substantiated and developed a pragmatic theory of ethics and morality. In short, it says that "it is profitable to be moral." Consider the examples. About the instability of love relationships with married or busy men we have already said. There are other moral norms, the violation of which can lead to psychological problems. For example, it is customary for a man to make a marriage proposal, and a woman would not show initiative in this matter. Nevertheless, in Russia hundreds and thousands of families are annually created on the initiative of a woman. Studies of family psychologists show that this is the most unstable and problematic type of marriage. If a man from the first days of family life feels pressure to make his decisions, sooner or later it will result in scandals, clarifying relations, treason or even divorce.
Another example relates to monetary relations. It is not customary for a man to be dependent on his wife financially. This is considered immoral behavior, especially if a man deliberately preaches it, and not just a victim of circumstances. And this type of marriage is also a risk group. The financial misalliance, in which the spouse is richer than the wife, is a fairly stable and prosperous marriage. And if the inequality is such that the wife is consistently richer and more successful than her husband, this is the way to problems and serious quarrels. The percentage of divorces among couples in which the husband is financially less successful is higher than in couples with equal income or with the financial superiority of men.
The moral side of betrayal and its impact on the relationship between the sexes is not at all worth talking about. This type of problem in family psychology is considered a critically significant "point of irreversibility". The "irreversibility point" is an event or message, after which the usual type of relationship becomes impossible. After him, the relationship most often break up, and if they are saved, then in a completely different form. It is known that the message about the betrayal of her husband is not just capable of destroying the family, but also makes the wife less sensual. Sometimes women who decide to still keep the family after the betrayal, lose the ability to experience orgasm. She returns to them only in case of divorce and change of partner. But more often, after all, betrayal does not just break the habitual way of life, but destroys the family. And if this novel is on the side, the traitor or traitor still has where to go. And it happens that a petty intrigue destroys a completely stable relationship, without which a person's life becomes not nice. And the desire for a short pleasure turns into prolonged suffering.
The main thing that is worth knowing about the relationship of the sexes and the principles of morality is that morality is not so much a heavy burden and bondage of bondage for people as a restrictive marking on the road of life. Of course, you can step behind the line and make "turns through a solid line." But sooner or later life itself will let know that the violation of the "road markings of destiny" is a dangerous, unnecessary and useless thing.