If a man stopped loving, how he behaves

Creating relationships that love governs, we naively believe that there will be no place for betrayal, disagreement and separation, that it is our love, despite the deplorable statistics of divorces and the bitter experience of others, that will stand the test of life and time. But years pass, and with them, as it is not sad to admit, and love. Love lives for three years ... This phrase was put into the mouth of the hero of his novel, Frederic Begbeder, and she flew around the world, finding vivid responses in the hearts of lovers.

And even if the novel ends on an optimistic note with faith in a long-beloved love, we continue to try this theory on our relations, counting on fingers how many years our love has lived. Men are less sentimental, and such kinds of theories are broken about their pragmatism. At them all is simple: "Well, loved! And then all! I do not like any more. " We are complex creatures, and we want to understand the nature of overly practical male thinking. Why did you stop loving? By what signs can you determine that he fell out of love? And is it possible to catch these first bells, foreshadowing the death of love?

Symptoms screaming that a man stopped loving

Men are also people from blood and flesh, from hormones and psyche. And for them, it is also quite natural that temporary mood swings, irritability or detachment. But if this line of behavior lasts a long period, and with time only worsens, it's time to sound an alarm. The following signs may indicate that a man has fallen out of love:

1. False. The first bell - a man begins to lie. Perhaps first he himself does not notice it. Just does not want to hurt the truth, which ripens inside. He no longer feels that joy from anticipation of happiness, returning home, and to the question: "Are you bored?" Gives out a dry "Yes." And even when he says "I love", he makes an effort, because he internally resists lies, and is not yet ready for the truth.
2. Lack of care. Coffee in the morning he only prepares himself, referring to the delay, although he often brought him straight to bed, or left on a table with a sandwich. Or he began to allow himself more and more often not to shave for the night, justifying himself with weighty, at first glance, reasons: tired, ill, late came.
3. Irritability over trifles. It began to categorically not suit and irritate something that he had not noticed before, or even considered a nice feature. "You talk a lot and hang on the phone for a long time!", "Tastelessly and defiantly dressing!", "At night you are scattered all over the bed and take away the blanket!", Etc.
4. Manifestation of indifference. A man ceases to be interested in family problems, needs and feelings of a woman. He prefers to spend his free time away from home, refuses to attend family events and go to meetings with common friends.
5. Disrespect and humiliation. The man uses scandals to inflict a devastating blow to the most painful place, of which, perhaps, only he knows. He humiliates insults and does not pick up words with children, close or even strangers.
6. Closed. Confidential conversations, discussions of problems and jointly taken decisions are in the past. The man is on his mind. He or is generally silent, not including his duty to inform of an important event, or voiced in fact.
7. Ignoring sex. Making love turned into a "technical process", reduced to the performance of marital duty, or a man often has attacks of "female" disease called "headache". He avoids embraces, evades touching, kisses and ignores any manifestations of tenderness and affection.
8. Uncontrolled aggression. His attacks of anger become the norm and grow into aggression. He increasingly loses his temper for no apparent reason, for which sometimes an innocent look, a word or a sigh. Looking into the eyes filled with anger, there is a fear for one's life and health.

Why did you stop loving?

The above signs, manifested in a man who has fallen out of love, is only a consequence of the cause of dislike. Having defined it, it is possible to struggle with manifestations that inevitably lead to the collapse of love or family. Of course, in each individual relationship it is necessary to put an individual "diagnosis" of dying love, but there are four fundamental reasons leading to this:

1. New love. It contains the main motives for the uncharacteristic behavior of a beloved man. Perhaps, in his previous relationships, he is held by children, obligations, conscience, and he can not dare to take decisive action, but he also succeeds in hiding the true feelings.
2. Habit. For couples who have been together for many years, love fades, feelings cool down, and the accumulated resentment from conflicts, quarrels, accusations, claims of a man seeks an exit and does not spare the female vulnerability.
3. Low self-esteem of a woman. A woman who, on the altar of love, puts self-esteem, femininity and own value, sooner or later becomes uninteresting to a man. He wants to admire her, be proud and feel the envious glances of others around him.
4. Permissiveness and accessibility. A man - a hunter by nature, becomes bored with a woman who has long been subdued, always predictable and has no desire to seduce, intrigue, provoke. He either stops himself feeling like a real man, or goes looking for one that he wants and wants to "hunt."