Historically, a man is stronger physically, and at times morally us, the representatives of the so-called weaker sex. Therefore, the laws of decency and impose enough responsibilities on the powerful shoulders of our men. Often they do not stand the pressure not only of established foundations, but also of us, defenseless fragile girls. It's difficult to always keep yourself in hand, indulging the whims of a lover. All this and much more can also become a cause of criticism.
This is a very simple, thoughtless and irrational solution to the problem. A man criticizes, splashing out his negative on a partner. And he often does not think about the consequences of his seemingly innocuous words. Your man can start criticizing your appearance. Yes, however strange it may sound, quite often girls are criticized by their young man. I think this is quite an important question both for the development of the girl's personality and for building the relationship of the couple as a whole. A logical question arises: what if a young man criticizes your appearance? The first reaction, I think of any average person is a "tooth for a tooth," that is, a response criticism.
All this eventually leads to mutual insults, even greater misunderstanding, and, as a result, the destruction of already existing relations. Girls, as more flexible and tactful partners can imperceptibly influence the situation. The main thing is to understand and eliminate the reason causing in your partner the desire to criticize. It is very important to understand WHY a person criticizes? Solve this problem only by understanding your partner. I can give several situations that cause your partner to criticize. Suppose that your young man is still right and your appearance is far from his ideas about the ideal. There is no other way out, just how to understand and accept his concern for your appearance.
True, the first path is still unlikely, since we live in the twenty-first century, and taking care of ourselves in modern girls has turned into at least a daily ritual. Criticism of your young man can only be explained only by physical handicaps. But there's nothing to be done about it: either the young man loves and accepts what he is, or not ... Let's say you belong to some informal groups, you certainly have a non-standard style. There is a possibility that your young man is simply embarrassed by excessive attention to your person on the street and in other public places. I think, here you can understand why there is a desire to criticize? You can try a little adjust your style, removing too much flashy details.
It is much more common when a young man criticizes your appearance, not realizing that the real reasons are not due to your appearance, but to his underestimated self-esteem. Now I'll try to explain. I think it's no secret that the best defense is an attack. This is often found at the beginning of dating, especially if the young man is not confident in himself. Trying to criticize the appearance, he first of all makes you doubt your own abilities, and, it is absolutely natural, your appearance can be in perfect order. Here, of course, you can simply ask your young man not to criticize your appearance, explaining that you and your environment do not think so. In any case, you need to learn to talk with your partner, discuss and solve your problems. Occasions for quarrels can be mass. But after all, full relations are worth fighting for. It is desirable, of course, that both partners try to keep them.
And criticism, I believe, at the initial stage is present in all couples, this is the costs of the still unsettled relationship. Over time, stooping, adjusting and increasingly understanding the partner of the critic disappears. It does not give anything useful to full-fledged relationships, although at the initial stage it can sometimes be useful. I'm only talking about cases where partners have not yet learned how to communicate, and they can not openly voice their claims to each other. It is at this stage that it should be properly understood and, if possible, something to adjust in itself or in its relation to the partner. If a young man really loves you, he will go to meet you. I'm sure this relationship will only benefit. I wish everyone good luck, and learn to use critically.