For days on end you do something, turn around like a routine, but you can not see the work. You are as if devastated, overwhelmed by something, literally everything falls from your hands, your mood changes every minute: you are happy, and then, suddenly, weep from something, do not want to eat, there is no understanding of your loved ones, you are torn by trifles, and patience is about to burst. All these signs are very similar to the symptoms of postpartum depression.
What is postpartum depression?
Postpartum depression is usually a temporary condition that affects women after the birth of a baby. It is tested by every tenth mother at the age of 25 to 45 years. It can begin at any time after childbirth. The impetus for postpartum depression is the birth of a child, since this is a very important event for the whole family, and for the mother in particular. Caring for a crumb, she often worries, worries, and sleepless nights lead to fatigue. The duration of postpartum depression ranges on average from a few months to a year and often requires treatment. What are they - the symptoms of postpartum depression and how to deal with them?
Symptoms of postpartum depression.
You are irritated by the crying of someone you so eagerly awaited - your child's crying. You want to hide, hide from unbearable mother's worries. You feel unprotected and depressed, you do not leave the feeling that your very own close and close people are whispering behind your back and laughing, waiting for when, at last, you at least make a mistake, do something wrong, then lecture you. The tiny little man, whom you have been carrying for so long, is a stranger to you, you do not feel any love and affection for him, yes, you gave birth to him, but he did not become your relatives, yours. Constant frustration, aversion to sex, nagging to her husband - all this is also characteristic of the victim of postpartum depression. "I'm so fat! My beloved skirt does not fit me! "You are unhappy with yourself, your own reflection in the mirror and your appearance annoy you.
With postpartum depression you need to fight! What for?
First, postpartum depression is a serious suffering not only for you, but also for the child. He is still very small, he needs attention and care, affection and love. He was just born, but he already feels that he is completely alien. But emotional contact is so important to him! My mother is ill, it means that the baby is ill. He does not feel needed, protected and calm.
Secondly, if you see that the forces are running out, that there is no energy inside you to fight the depressed state, do not think that everything will end on its own. Remember that you have relatives, close people, ask for help from your mother or sister, or maybe even your daughter-in-law or your mother-in-law. Do not be shy, share your problems, your feelings and fears with them. Close people will understand that a young mother needs help, love and support.
Agree with your husband that at least one day a week you devote yourself, beloved. Let him help you and arrange for you a "fasting day". Go to the beauty salon, do a hairdo or manicure, pamper yourself with new spirits, chat with your beloved friend or just take a walk - a walk in the fresh air will encourage and improve the complexion. Listen to music, dance, you can even have a child in your arms. More "talk" with your baby: look into his eyes, hold the handle, stroke, and gently touch his cheek - he is so glad of such moments! Get plenty of sleep - try to lie down next to the baby, hug him and rest with him. Do not be afraid, start doing something, and you'll see how everything goes well and will go into its own channel.