Experts believe that in 6 - 7 years, most children are already ready to go from games to training. And the main task for parents should be to help the child in this.
First you need to start with yourself. And no matter how dissatisfied you are with the current education system, your child should not hear unpleasant reviews about the place where he needs to be educated for a long time.
If the child will hear from his relatives and relatives such phrases as "this stupid school", "you will suffer there when you go", "learning is a torture", etc., it is unlikely that the child will happily expect September 1 and a negative attitude, fear of learning will already be laid down initially.
In the first class, assignments for the house are not yet set. But the habit of independently, without reminders to do lessons to be brought up from the first days of school. And first of all, parents should understand that preparing homework is an important and serious matter for the student. Therefore, your attitude to the study of the child, you show how necessary and necessary. Interruption in the performance of lessons (for example, in order to eat, or watch TV, or urgently go to the store for bread) is unacceptable. Otherwise, it turns out that parents themselves show by their behavior that doing lessons is not such an important matter and you can wait with it.
It is proved that the time for which children can keep attention is different for each age. For example, a first-grader can work continuously, without distraction, about 10-15 minutes. But older children can not take more time (20 minutes), students of the last classes work 30-40 minutes continuously. Poor health or frustration of the child indicated time reduces.
In connection with the above, you do not need to pull the child back if it turns. On the contrary, if he changes his posture, gets up and resembles, he does some exercises for the eyes, this will help him to relieve tension and continue with more efficient execution of tasks. After diligent work it is necessary to take a break. Since if you work until the end, until everything is done, then this approach gives a small effect and increases the voltage.
Do not force the child to do homework after coming from school. Let him first have lunch, rest or take a walk, because after school the child comes tired, not less than adults from work. This fatigue still will not allow the child to concentrate and keep attention. Moreover, most of the homework is written work. And when tired, even simple sticks come off as scrawl.
Imagine the situation, the child comes tired of the school and immediately sit down to do homework. He does not succeed, then you have to rewrite, but it gets worse - from here grief, tears. This situation, repeated daily, forms a child's fear of making mistakes and disgust for homework.
Some parents are forced to do homework in the evening when they return from work. But towards evening, fatigue accumulates even more, and everything repeats - misunderstanding of tasks, lack of interest in the subject. Failures are repeated, parents are unhappy. The result can only be that the child will not want to do the lessons.
Therefore, the ideal time for preparing the given lessons from three in the afternoon to five in the evening.
When a child does his homework, do not stand behind him and follow his every action. It will be much more correct to deal with the tasks together, and then go away to deal with their own affairs. But the child should have the confidence that parents will necessarily come up and help, if something is unclear to him. You need to explain calmly, without irritation, even if you have to do it several times. Then your child will not feel afraid to ask his parents for help.
If you still decide to help the child, then your role should be to explain the material is exciting, accessible and interesting. You must do it with him, not for him, leaving tasks for self-fulfillment. Otherwise, the lack of a habit of independent work can play a negative role in his life.
Explain to your child that it is better and easier to deal with a new topic at home, if it was not clear in school, because you can ask uncomplaining questions without hesitation. And having understood the fulfillment of tasks well, it will be much easier and quicker to solve control problems in school, and also to learn new knowledge on this topic in the following lessons. If you are interested in a child in the subject you are studying, you will not have to force him to do homework, read books.
As we see, the unwillingness to teach lessons does not arise unexpectedly or in the first months of school. It is formed gradually because of fear of failure.
To ensure that homework does not inspire fear, but give confidence that the difficulties are surmountable, evaluate the efforts of the child. The approval, support and praise will stimulate it, but the rude treatment, mockery, ridicule cause resentment and fear of failure. Therefore believe in the child, and he will believe in himself, too.
Here are a few recommendations for parents who want to remedy the situation, in which the child does not want to do homework.
First, do not overload the child with additional tasks, unless he himself wants to. Help to understand and do only what was asked.
Secondly, explain everything to the child calmly, not being nervous. Praise often for the right task. And the mistakes are sorted out together and to fix it, solve a similar problem.
Third, begin your studies by performing light examples, gradually complicating. Then self-confidence will not scare the child away from difficult tasks. To increase the complexity of the task, go after making the lighter.
I hope that this article will help to identify and eliminate the reason why your child does not want to do homework, and you know now what to do if the child does not want to do homework!