A serious problem for parents is the period of adaptation of the child to new conditions. Specialists divide children into three groups for adaptation to a kindergarten. Children who have neuropsychic disorders and frequent colds in the period of adaptation are among the first group. Children who are often ill, but they do not show any obvious signs of nervous overexcitation, they are included in the second group, and the third group consists of children adapting to a kindergarten without complications.
In the kindergarten begin to take children from one and a half years, but the most appropriate age is 3 years. Although at this age adaptation to the kindergarten process is not fast. Its average duration is about a month. When the child has just started going to the kindergarten, the reluctance to go, fears and so on - are quite understandable. Of course, the conditions of stay in the pre-school educational institution are different from the home. In the kindergarten the child is no longer in the center of attention, as at home, the educator and nurse distribute their attention evenly to all children. The child is frightened by the new situation, a large number of unfamiliar people and, most importantly, the absence of a beloved mother, next to which the baby feels protected. These causes cause mental stress, which is expressed in weeping.
To make the adaptation period less painful and faster, the child needs to be prepared in advance. The child should get used to having to attend a kindergarten. On how much the child will know better what to prepare for, what to expect, depends on the willingness of the child to meet with the new team, with new conditions.
Initially, whenever possible, the mother should reduce the time spent with her child. For example, for walks let only the father go, more often leave the kid with the grandmother and go about their business.
It is also necessary to tell the child about the kindergarten more and more often, to reduce it there, so that he has an idea about it.
The regime of the baby's day, try to bring it closer to that, like in the kindergarten, a few months before admission to it.
In order for the child to get used to communicating with other children and adults, choose for children's parks and playgrounds, resemble children's centers for developmental activities. Try to visit more often, on holidays, friends' birthdays.
Try to get acquainted with the group educator in advance and tell about the individual characteristics of your child.
You can not give the child to the garden immediately after the transferred, even non-serious illness. He must still gain strength, otherwise a huge adaptive load can lead to very serious consequences in terms of physical and mental health.
After you brought the child to the kindergarten and left one, be sure to calm him down, saying that you will return after some time.
In the early days you need to bring the child in the morning for 1,5-2 hours, so in the first months do not go straight to work. Then you can leave for breakfast with other children, in a few weeks you can try to leave for a nap. Such a gradual mode of addiction often does not cause the child a stressful state.
Try to leave the baby easily and quickly. Otherwise your anxiety can be passed on to the child. If a child struggles to part with his mother, then his father must take him. The more restraint in men is more, and the sensitivity is less than that of women.
You can choose together with the baby your favorite toy, which will walk with him every day in the kindergarten and get acquainted there with other toys. And after the kindergarten, ask the toy what happened to her in the kindergarten, with whom she met and was friends, who upset her, whether she was bored around the house. This will help you learn about how the baby manages to get used to the kindergarten.
A positive result can be given to play in a kindergarten, where one of the toys will be the child. Look at what this toy will do and say, teach it together with the child to make friends and solve the problems of the child through it.
A situation may arise that a child does not want to go to a particular educator. If this is repeated on a daily basis, then try to find out how much the child's claims are justified-is the teacher really ill-treating the baby, shouting and cursing at the children. If this is not the case, then talk to the educator about this. A good and competent educator should try to find an approach to your child. If after a while the situation does not change and the child still does not want to go to this teacher or the child's words are confirmed, then try to transfer the child to another group. Do not let your child suffer and communicate with unpleasant people, because in the garden the child will spend most of the time.
If a child has been going to kindergarten for a long time, and then suddenly not with that, not with it refuses, then try to find out the reason for this. Perhaps the kid was offended or tired of getting up early in the morning. If the reason is not serious, then after some time he again wants to kindergarten.
If his "dislike" for the garden grew with time and then became chronic, then most likely the fact is that the child in the garden is bored, the activities for him are uninteresting, or with children in general are not engaged. In this case, try to change the situation in the garden, having talked with the head of the kindergarten, or teach the child to entertain himself, let him take with him his favorite games and toys.
In any case, to abandon the kindergarten is necessary, if:
- The child visits the garden for more than 4-6 weeks, but is not accustomed to actively refusing to go there;
- the child's behavior became aggressive;
- Nerve stress in the child, accompanied by enuresis, nocturnal fears, etc.
Watching the health of your baby, his behavior and mood, you can yourself answer the question "Do you need a garden", because you know what to do if the child does not want to go to kindergarten!