Many are aware of the existence of such a problem as domestic violence, which has been observed for many millennia. Its solution is beyond its power and widespread progress, and raising the cultural level in society. The number of women who represent a victim of male assault is quite high even in highly civilized countries. Although in our day of the beatings of a man, a woman has the right to report to law enforcement agencies and thereby bring him to trial.
But do all women decide on this? It turns out that there is no more. It is strange that many people, and we also mean self-sufficient women, continue to live and endure bullying from their second half, while showing concern for him and giving birth to children from him. Why is it happening? What is the reason for this? Hardly anyone knows the specific answer to this question. Perhaps they continue to endure, guided by a long-obsolete and stupid warning - beats, then loves? And maybe they hope that someday their good will change and everything will change in their life.
In such cases, we can say one thing: if a husband beats his wife, it is necessary to fight against this and take some measures. Problem solvable, and definitely - such a marriage should be torn and rid of rubbing. But for one reason or another, not all women decide on this. Asli does not manage to solve the problem in this way, one must make efforts to prevent the possibility of further bullying. How to act in such situations?
What to do if a man beats his wife ?
It is clear that a self-confident, ambitious woman will never become a victim of male violence. If even the situation has taken shape in such a way that a tyrant husband has fallen into a trap, a strong-willed woman and minutes will not torment herself with doubts about this. Break the relationship, and the point. And I must say that in most cases he will never resume further relations with him.
Being weak-willed, having an understated self-esteem the woman suffers mockery all her life, thereby dooming herself and her children to suffering. It is not inherent in people who are weak to make decisive actions, and it is not very much to change their nature by night. And in order not to appear in the clutches of a tyrant husband, one must first try to study his character, his inclination for violence and take appropriate measures.
Those who gravitate toward complete dictatorship in the family of a man very often, unfortunately, are quite attractive. Having turned a girl's head and surrounded her with care and attention, they easily achieve an attitude to themselves. In love with such an inexperienced girl, she believes that having such a strong man next to her will always be reliably protected and comfortable life provided to her. Novot trouble, if you just go for a wedding, like a wall, which in the person of your husband should be stone, becomes prison. In the relationship between the spouse is a nightmare, which works on the principle of the relationship between boa and ikrolikom.
So what should be the first signal and alert the girl?
Despotism, as a rule, without forcing itself to wait for long, immediately begins to reveal itself in innocent remarks addressed to friends and the girl's familiar acquaintances. Trying to draw her attention to how with other women nimflirtuyut, the future despotic husband tries to cause in the girl of feeling. Arguing in arguments such arguments as an attempt of the girl's close people (father, mother, sister) to destroy their relationship, tries to achieve its complete separation from relatives.
A man of this type quickly becomes enraged at every little thing and thus loses control.
In the beginning, without rushing in the face, such phenomena are perceived by the girl as a joke. In the power of a despotic person, completely unmarked, it turns out later, when both relatives and friends are pushed aside, and sometimes even disappeared altogether.
It all starts with the fact that the beloved husband scandals and goes out of himself about and without him, begins to humiliate and even use his power. The woman starts to rush in despair, try to please, but all this does not lead to the expected results.
What can I do if all this takes form of constancy? The main thing is not to allow all this. You should not dissolve yourself and cry your miserable and unfinished destiny. You just need to try to keep yourself in hand and seriously consider the current situation and the reasons for their occurrence. And in general - is it worth continuing to live with this person? Try to assess the situation soberly and weigh all the positive and negative in the features of your spouse. Well, if the positive qualities outweigh the negative, then try to change the microclimate in the house.
First of all, try to raise your self-esteem, for there are so many ways with which you can achieve respect and love towards yourself from the other side. The choice of this or that method will allow you to achieve your own without any special difficulties. It is necessary to get rid of the inferiority complex that your husband inspired you. Such qualities as ineptitude, stupidity, mediocrity and many other things have already become, as it were, the state of your soul. However, each person is worthy of happiness. You are not exempt, and no one has the right to deprive you of this.
If you want to save the family, improve the home atmosphere, act in a gradual and consistent way. Eliminate your fear of her husband, pull him to the root. Remember that you are free, the apocalyptic freedom gives you a life choice, which is always only zava. And if you decided to keep the marriage, try to change your behavior towards your husband. Praise him often for the virtues inherent in him, be calmer and more affectionate, try to radiate more positive.
The effect will bring this only if your second half is aware of its problems associated with self-control and decide to work on yourself. And if not, then it would be better just to part with him, because his endless requests for forgiveness and attempts to prove his passionate love can not be seriously taken for the assurance that the beatings will cease. As life experience proves, man's manhandling will become a common occurrence if a woman regularly forgives him. And therefore, one should not make a preamble "beats-means, loves" with his vital postulate. You are worthy of the love of those who do not dissolve their hands in order to prove their feelings.