A new, different meaning of life appears. In addition, science claims that as a result of hormonal changes, the size of the cells of certain areas of the brain increases in the body of the woman that gives birth. This process has a beneficial effect on the work of the brain of the woman in labor, and according to scientists, it makes it smarter! And how else - a born baby brings with him a lot of incredible situations and sudden problems, which makes mom be collected, make quick decisions in unexpected situations. The behavior of the young dad is also changing - now he feels responsible for the baby, for his well-being. A lot of good, joyful and bright. But there are no less problems. About night adventures and daily household chores, future moms have heard. But the crisis in relations after the birth of the baby becomes more often a surprise for them. A young mother, blinded by a new feeling, is confident that her husband's behavior should be similar - enthusiastic, touching and unmoving to tears. However, the pope does not always feel the same feeling as his mother. And this does not mean dislike for your child. The thing is that a man who got used to the fact that the wife before the birth of the child paid all attention only to him and now watching how all the attention in the family is only to the new little man is experiencing unconscious jealousy.
The child radically changes the way of life of the mother, leaving her no time and energy for anything else - he completely subordinates his mother to himself. A man who sees how his mother gives the child all his attention and love, can feel unnecessary, superfluous, and either begins to "be capricious" attracting such behavior attention, or avoid a place where he is no longer loved - to stay at work, spend free time with friends. Another scenario of development is possible - jealous and referring to fatigue at work or other reasons "quietly step aside", allowing the mother to fully engage in the baby. Through the eyes of the mother, it looks like this: her child, a long-awaited child, a child without whom she no longer understands life, causes her father only indifference! This may already be the reason for the emergence of a crisis in relations after the birth of a child. The true motives for such behavior must be sought at the psychological level. The fact that a woman at the time of the birth of a child triggers a maternal instinct - she without words, at the level of emotional interaction, can communicate with her baby, she without special knowledge understands what and when her baby is needed. Men do not have such an instinct - all of his feelings for a child are acquired, they need time to accept, love their baby. The prolonged crisis in relations only exacerbates the situation, not allowing a man to get used to his new role. However, not only man is guilty of a crisis. The syndrome of postpartum depression, which as a bolt from the blue sky falls on an already exhausted woman and childbirth, and is also able to provoke a crisis in the relationship. So how do you get out of the situation? As statistics show, 39% of couples experience a crisis in relations after the birth of a child. Therefore, the problem is not unique and requires consideration, because only when you understand the true reasons you can solve it.
To overcome the crisis in the relationship it is necessary that there would be a desire to get out of it. In this situation it is impossible to remain silent - it is necessary to discuss the problem with the spouse. Tell us what you are worried about, what you are experiencing. Be sincere in conversation and in return necessarily receive sincerity from the spouse. Understand that only together you can overcome the crisis in the relationship after the birth of the child. Do not save the man from "childish" worries - instruct him to perform some kind of duty - believe him, he will surely succeed! First, the husband will stop fearing the child, and secondly, he will feel needed. Do not aggravate the crisis in quarrels - put yourself in the shoes of a spouse, look at the situation with his eyes - how would you act in his place? Do not clarify the relationship either with outsiders or with your own children - a quarrel is only your business, do not involve others in finding out the relationship. Let it be possible that you yourself are to blame for the reason for the quarrel - there are very few people without shortcomings. If you yourself can not overcome the crisis in the relationship after the birth of the child, you can not - do not turn a blind eye to the problem. Consult a psychologist, the best option here is paired consultations.
In conclusion, I would like to say that the key to any family conflict is love, respect and mutual understanding between spouses. The well-being of the family and the newborn depends only on the parents, their ability to find a way out of the crisis, to discuss problems, not to wait from the spouse, and first to go to a meeting! Love, respect each other and together you can overcome any hardships!