1. The family alphabet begins with the pronoun "we".
Each of the spouses should muffle their "I" and all to perceive, do and build their lives from the "WE" position. Observance of this rule will seriously supplement family life with happiness, mutual understanding, joy.
2. Hurry to repeat the good.
Having done a good job, hurry yet to do good for the spouse, for the family. It will fill with happiness not only those for whom the good is done, but also the one who does the good.
3. Stop in anger.
A wise rule - do not rush to pour out anger, think, understand the situation, understand and forgive the spouse.
4. In any conflict situation, do not blame the spouse (y), but look for the cause in yourself.
Psychologically very subtle and deep rule. In a true sense, both in the mutual relations of the spouses and in concrete situations, both are almost always to blame, and if a misdemeanor occurred in which one of the spouses is to blame, then the ground for the misdemeanor was probably once prepared by the other spouse.
5. Each step towards is equal to many days of joy, each step away from the family, from the spouse - to many bitter days.
In young families, it often happens on the contrary - the couple quarreled, and neither of them wants to take a step forward, waiting for the other to do it. And sometimes even worse: acting on the principle "you did me a bad thing, but I'll make you worse," as they say "tooth for tooth." All this then leads to serious disagreements in the family.
6. A good word is good, but a good deed is better.
Of course, everywhere a good deed is better than a kind word. But in family relationships, sometimes a good word means no less than a good deed. By the way, not only a woman "likes ears," a man also needs to hear approval from the wife, praise and, of course, that he is the most-most.
7. Being able not only to take the place of another, but worthy to stand on his own in this situation.
Responsibility for one's own actions, acceptance of one's defeat, one's wrongness is a skill that does not come by itself, it must be patiently and persistently brought up from childhood.
8. One who does not believe himself does not believe.
Family relations are built on trust each other. It is necessary to cultivate the desire to maintain this trust, to justify it.
9. Be a friend of his (her) friends, then your friends will become his friends.
10. Nobody wants to love mother-in-law and mother-in-law, but they are ready to love two mothers.