First, we determine who can be considered a loser. Not every person who could not reach some heights, could not make money, can be called a loser. There are separate people for whom money and position in society mean nothing. They have in life the work they are doing, friends who respect them. I have one married couple, they founded a club for the spiritual development of their children. They have scanty incomes, because in our time few people care about the spiritual development of their children - most of people want the child to be engaged in drawing, music, foreign languages and so on. But, nevertheless, this married couple enjoys a certain authority, they have their own group of like-minded people, in which they feel they are respected and necessary people. And somehow one does not turn the language to call them losers.
As a rule, real losers are unhappy with life and often complain about it. Once I met a man who always complained about the lack of money. At the same time, he did absolutely nothing to improve his level of education in order to obtain a more prestigious profession. And our communication gradually stopped.
Another sign of a loser, this is for what this man would not undertake, he does not succeed. My friend often tried her hand at journalism, then in network marketing, but nowhere could she win the reputation of a good professional and an employee. It always seemed to her that she was simply not appreciated. And there is nothing surprising that her salary was scanty, and she often had to change jobs.
A loser is someone who does not do his own thing and does nothing to make life better, goes the wrong way, while he believes that in his misfortunes, other people are to blame.
One of my neighbors had to be in the role of a loser. Her professional ambitions proved to be very far from her real possibilities. No, to find a normal job, she spent several years to enter post-graduate studies, she was engaged in science, to which she had no desire. At a time when former fellow students became general directors, she was interrupted by some kind of accidental earnings. All this went on for quite some time. She has almost no friends left. The trouble ended when she, reluctantly acknowledged that the real scientist from her would not work, and began to work in her main profession.
Why do not you need to communicate with a loser?
He pulls down
We all are striving for something good, and the loser is trying to get us back to his level. His favorite expression - "did not live well - there is nothing to start! "If you are going to go somewhere with such a loser, then get ready for the fact that he will complain about how everything is expensive, and then you have to pay for everything, or go with him in a crowded subway, instead of going in a taxi , or to dine in some eatery instead of a cafe.
In his own purposes he uses a more successful man
The loser will whine about how unlucky he is in life, and you are lucky. And at such a moment you will feel that you are to blame for it, this is what a loser needs. He will take advantage of your weakness and finally sit on your neck - make you fulfill the slightest of his whims, take a large amount of money that he will never return, settle in your house. Is it worth communicating with such a person in life?
He envies the more fortunate
A loser can admire your achievements in your eyes, sing to you with praises, and say for your eyes that you have undeservedly received all the benefits of life, call you an upstart. But he himself deserves them more. Prepare to the fact that he can compromise you before your lover, friends, superiors. And the only reason is envy.
Failures are infectious
It's all incomprehensible, but at the same time it's true. It was worth me to contact the loser, how I had problems with money, work, and so on. At first I thought it was an accident, but when such problems recurred, I guessed why. The whole paradox is that we sincerely feel sorry for the loser, because he already got it in life, that's how we communicate with him.
What to do if you are "stuck" to such a person? First, try to "re-educate" it, sometimes it happens. Suggest him to go to the courses, look for a job, so that he, in one way or another, independently solves his problems. If he tries to pull away from all this, he does not want, then rip off all sorts of relations with him. Every man is an architect of his own fortune.
Now we know if we should communicate with a loser in life. Follow these tips and you will understand to achieve success in life, it is not worthwhile in life to communicate with a loser.