Lies in childhood

Almost every child ever tries to lie. This applies even to those who have never encountered lies in their entourage.
A very small child does not yet understand that other people do not have to know what he knows. While he thinks everyone knows everything, he does not have a sense to lie. This "art" is taught to children at the age of 3-5 years, when they find out that people act and speak in the way that they are profitable in each particular situation, sometimes a lie can not be considered such, and it happens that children themselves are sure what they are saying. A real lie arises at a time when a child is deliberately telling a lie with the intent to mislead someone.
It is also important to find out the reason why a child lies. Some motives are unacceptable, for example, when a child wants to hurt someone or hurt someone. It's quite another thing if a child is afraid of something. In this case, the help of the parents may be required.

Why children can tell lies

1) The child does not understand where the fantasy, and where the reality.
A preschooler has a lively fantasy, he is still learning to distinguish what is desired from the real.
2) Exaggerates.
This is often done by adults. The child so far only trains, but still does not know the measures, exaggerates to improbability.
3) Information is reported in part, may not inform about something necessary.
This is possible because the child does not remember all the information, or it seems to him not so important. As a result, the general meaning of the above is distorted.
4) Wants to avoid trouble.
The reason is fear of possible punishment or unwillingness to disappoint, upset parents.
5) Dreams of anything.
And at the same time he understands that he will not get the desired thing, if he does not lie.
6) Wants to attract attention and care.
A child can say for this purpose that someone has hurt or struck him. This is often found in preschool children and parents need to find out whether this is true.

How parents react to lies

It is necessary to determine the causes of the lie. To find out why the child did this, what did he mean by that? Does he understand that his words do not correspond to reality or did it specifically to deceive?
It is necessary to give the child an opportunity to correct the situation, without blaming him directly for lying. Correct the consequences better than punish immediately. For example, if a child breaks something, he can help remove the leftovers. If someone insults someone with a lie, he will have to apologize. The stolen thing will have to return. If he lies so that they are not forbidden to watch TV, he will not be watching this day. The child should be made to understand that a lie will not do him good.
But in any case, the child should know - his parents love him no matter what!

How to teach children to tell the truth

1) Communicate with children often and about everything.
In a family where it is possible to say different opinions, disagreements, negative emotions, but quietly, correctly, without offending anyone, where they listen to the opinion of children, the child sees no point in lying. He can express his excellent point of view and knows that he will be heard and understood.
2) Try to be consistent in their actions.
The same types of lies must have the same consequences. The child needs to know what punishment he expects and whether he should lie.
3) Talk about "truth" and "lies".
Bring examples from fairy tales and films, from the life of other children. Talk about the consequences of lying, explain how a deceived person and a deceiver feel. Talk about trust and gullibility, about what you can win and what to lose by lying.
4) Be an example and do not deceive yourself.
Children often copy adults. And if the parent lies to the child or to someone else in his presence, the child concludes that this is the way to act.
5) Engage in children.
It is not enough just to write the child in the sports section. We need to spend more time with him, make joint walks, buy, play board games, watch children's programs together. All of the above strengthens relations with parents, as well as the desire to communicate and share all sorrows and joys.