People, whatever one may say, are social creatures. And this means that a person needs a family. A family can be small or large, it can be parents or children, or the other half. Loneliness, when there is nobody to say - "I love you", so that they understand and accept - this is a real tragedy for a person. But each "non-norm" has its own reasons.
Even with parents and children, a person can remain lonely if he does not have a loved one nearby. Or be lonely if you have a life partner. At this point, who is so lucky ... Can a man, a man or a woman, manage without a life partner? How long does a person stand alone? And why do some people consciously choose it?
Good reasons or excuses?
All our problems sit in my head, so doctors on a gray substance - psychologists and psychiatrists consider. If a person does not want to connect his life with someone's life, it means that he has good reasons for this. Such a cause may be an emotional trauma. A person is afraid to once again experience what has already happened in his life. How often the first love, naive and imperfect, ends with betrayal, traumatizing the human psyche, leaving a deep trace for the rest of life ... And then a person chooses loneliness - when there is nobody to say I love you when there is nobody to share the joys of life, but there will be no disappointments !!
Emotional Injuries
The people say that one of the couple loves, the second one allows himself to love. The one who allows, often is too cruel to those who love, often uses it for selfish purposes. If a person is emotionally traumatized during adolescence or in adolescence, it is almost impossible to get rid of it independently. And then a person refuses to love at all. Loneliness is not only when there is no one to say "I love you", but when there is not even such a desire. And this refusal can be argued as anything - at least "I do not want to bind others with promises," "it's impossible to love forever, so why torment others" and others.
The reason may be parents or other adults who have traumatized a teenager, in connection with his feelings for someone. Uneasy psyche is not able to cope with emotional trauma, so this experience is fixed for a long time and, of course, affects subsequent life events.
Unconsciously, a person tries not to fall into a situation similar to the one in which he received an emotional trauma , and as a consequence, he ceases to develop in this area. In such cases, it is possible to use a psychological technique that can lead him out of this state. And then the work does not begin with the ability to cope with loneliness, when there is no one to say "I love you", but when there is a very desire to speak, feel. Then this hopeless, gray lonely existence will change too.
It should be remembered that a person must himself realize the need to get rid of this cargo, because any technique assumes that the trauma will have to be experienced once more, to finally leave it. If the psyche is not yet ready for such stress, and this happens in case the victim's initiator is the victim's relatives, the result will be negative. Such loneliness, when there is no one to say "I love you" and be understood, heard, desired, will only worsen. After all, it is impossible to force a person to communicate, as it is impossible to force to love ...
How to help?
The help is necessary only in the event that the person itself asks him to help. A person who has been emotionally traumatized in his youth does not make contact with other people, but, often, achieves success in his work, which is facilitated by a large concentration on it, as well as unspent emotional energy. Such people no longer need to communicate with the outside world, they are much more concerned about their inner world.
The second reason for the desire for solitude is the peculiarities of the device of the psyche. These are introverts. In this case, the specialist is not needed. Introverts have a very rich inner world. Imagine how such people feel in society! Introverts do not need communication, so everyday and long hours stay in a close team so they are so tired that they choose activities that do not involve frequent and close contacts with other people. Such a person can only be interested in himself, his inner world, his simple domestic relations will not suit him. But introverts lack the zeal to work, as in traumatized people, it is much more difficult for them to adapt in society. For these people are suitable free creative professions with a free work schedule. The main thing is that there are no people willing to remake such a person, then an emotional trauma is inevitable.
The third reason for the desire for solitude is the reluctance to complicate one's life, adjust to a partner in a relationship, unwillingness to assume financial responsibility for a family. This is a common egoism complete with pragmatism. Their goal is life without problems. Such people, as a rule, avoid emotional contacts, everything is calculated, both in business and in personal life. The reason for this position lies in the life experience gained, according to observations of the life of relatives and friends. Such a person is incorrigible. Therefore, if such a person has become important to you, accept his life position, maybe in time he will let you close to him.
Whether we like it or not, humanity wants to be alone, sad as it may seem ...