This gives rise to many stereotypes and prejudices about how, for example, relations are built in Muslim families.
Important concepts for all Muslims are "halal," "makrooh," and "haram." "Halting" - this is what is allowed, is allowed both by law and religion. "Makruh" is an undesirable, but not forbidden, action. It does not have a direct prohibition, but if it is treated lightly, then this is the path to sin. "Haram" is an act forbidden by law or religion, for which a person is punished after death, and during his life compatriots may punish in accordance with Sharia law.
Muslims do not strictly prohibit divorce, as, for example, Christianity, but it accurately describes what is allowed to her husband and that he is forbidden against his wife. Divorce in this religion is highly discouraged, but there are situations in which a man in Islam is forbidden to create a family, and if he created it, then he must divorce at the first request of his wife. This includes, for example, cruelty towards a woman.
People who are far from Islam believe that the husband's attitude towards his wife in this religion is strict, even cruel, that the woman is in voluntary slavery first with her father and brothers, then with her husband. All this is far from what it seems. The duties of a Muslim husband towards his wife are so vast that they can easily compete with a huge ethical code adopted in any other religion or culture. Here are just some of the requirements of Islam to husbands.
A Muslim husband is required to demonstrate a good character in relation to his wife. He must tame his bad temper, do not harass her with cavils and do not show cruelty.
If the husband comes home from work, he should ask about his wife's health. And depending on her response to act. If she feels well, he is allowed to be alone in her caress, hug, kiss. And if suddenly she looks confused or distressed, the husband is obliged to ask her about the reasons and help in resolving the problems.
Europeans can envy some things if they read in more detail about what is allowed to husbands in relation to their wives in Islam. For example, it is not very common in Christian cultures to make false promises. In Islam, it is believed that in order to reassure a woman, a man is allowed to promise her golden mountains. A man with a clear conscience and without sin can promise her everything she wants, even if she knows for sure that she can not do it. It is believed that since the husband is the sole breadwinner of the family, and the wife sits at home and brings up the children, the husband is obliged to cherish her faith in the best.
At home, a Muslim wife does not have to walk in veils and veils. Moreover, the man is obliged to buy her the best clothes and the most beautiful linen and ornaments on the first request. The wife should hide her beauty and sexuality only in public. At home, the Muslim husband is allowed to see her in all its glory. In this case, her husband is not recommended to save either on clothes or on food for his wife. That is, he can buy for the last money luxurious dishes and the most expensive jewelry, just to please your beloved wife. But the stinginess and stinginess of a husband can be considered a sin in Islam.
A big dispute arises among the interpreters of the Quran and Islamic scholars studying Islam about the husband's education of his wife. Many are sure that it is allowed to the husband with respect to his wife on Islam easy assault. In fact, a husband in Islam, although it should educate his wife, but to beat her almost has no right. Women who do not keep the honor of the family and do not protect its property can be punished by the husband. Unwillingness, perfidy and crime against the laws of the Shariah, the husband can try to stop on his own, and only if he does not succeed, then he is obliged to transfer the wife to justice. The husband is obliged to protect the young family from gossip, and his wife - from slander. On the other hand, if the wife herself is notorious, loves squabbles and gossip, he must cultivate respect for the elders in her. Especially this applies to situations in which a young wife conflicts with his sister or mother. In order for peace between the family and older relatives to be more possible, the husband is obliged to keep in secret all the information about the shortcomings in the nature and upbringing of the wife.
In the case of family quarrels, her husband is silenced by Islam. In order not to inflate the conflict, the husband is allowed to remain silent for a day. The wife for this time should come to, cool down and apologize. Muslims believe that a woman can not stand the silence of her husband for a long time, and this is the worst punishment for her. Even the most proud and obstinate wife is able to pull herself together in a day and find peaceful solutions to the misunderstandings that have arisen.
Much attention in Islam is paid to the prayers of the husband for his wife. The upbringing of the husband by the wife of the Muslims attaches great importance. So the husband should pray to Allah for any improvement in his wife's behavior, ask him for them, or give thanks if they have already occurred. On the man also lies the responsibility for the failure to commit sin. It is believed that a woman is more vicious and weak, and the husband, as the head of the family and the stronger person, is obliged to resist the sinful thoughts of the wife. In this case, the husband should not be a bore, and must allow his wife to show minor defects and shortcomings that do not lead to sin. That is, he should not get too naughty to her, and only the behavior that can lead to haraam (forbidden action) can control. At the same time, games with his wife, even gambling, are not considered to be a sin, they are even welcomed, as they help to strengthen the family, but the exit to entertaining establishments is usually forbidden to the wife, and the husband must follow it very strictly.
As can be seen from the above, the foundations of family life in Islam do not differ much from the family traditions of adherents of other religions. Understanding this fact should contribute to a more peaceful existence of people of different cultures and religions next to each other.