Love novels: harm or benefit?

Bookshelves are full of variety, so choosing something that is worth a lot of books is sometimes difficult. Of course, the search narrows, when you know exactly what you want: someone likes horror movies, someone - mysticism, someone - detectives. Among the female half of the population there are plenty of fans of romance novels. Is it possible that the books of this genre are harmful?


Ideal life

Oh, how I would like all life on a pike command to put a friend in a perfect instant. In love novels, this is precisely what is, in fact, attracts sentimental ladies to this genre of literature. Every day there is a sea of ​​new books that are immediately disassembled and read in vain: one woman will be treated with ideal relationships that are not in real life; the other - how the mutual understanding between a man and a woman is built, how, despite all the difficulties, it all goes smoothly and smoothly; the third - qualitatively described sex, because the review of porn seems too dirty business. Everyone likes something of their own, this ideal life, embodied on paper, it is quite different. The man here is a real man, not a mattress and a wimp, perhaps a romantic, maybe a macho, sex is real pleasure, love is beautiful, fabulous, extraordinary. It attracts women and girls, they want to read it, they like watching someone else's happy and ideal life.

Transfer to reality

This is the most dangerous, this is what you should first of all fear when reading novels. Let's say you have a second half. Let's say you are more or less happy, despite some difficulties and a small quarrel. But here you read a new love story, where you saw in the main heroine a typical self, right up to the description of your man. You continue to read automatically automatically comparing yourself more and more with the book girl, and that she threw the present guy, she did not regret a bit and found a new lover, a hundred times better than before, with whom she has love before the grave. Naturally, experienced women do not take such literature seriously , but a young girl who has a full relationship for the first time started, can perceive what she wrote as a call to action. "Indeed, since she could, than I'm worse?" - the beauty will think and leave her man. And it is not a fact that she will meet "The One" herself, since in the same book he was really ideal, but in life such things are not and are not.

Verdict

Romance novels are good only for those who objectively understand that everything that is written in books is fiction, including ideal relations. When reading books about zombies, dragons, aliens and other fantastical creatures, no one has the question "Why I do not also." Yes, someone has delicious fantasy dreams, filled with ordinary characters, heroic adventures and unreal events, about what the girls prefer to dream before going to bed, presenting themselves as the main heroine of the read book. After romance novels, as mentioned earlier, girls, especially young ones, without many years of experience, begin to dream of a prince on a white dog, rejecting one real boyfriend after another. It's dangerous, because life goes by.

So, dear girls and women, read novels, they are often written in beautiful, pleasant style, but take them as ordinary fantasy, no more. Do not try to carry everything into the real world, what your favorite writers and writers write, and then you will not stay with a broken trough, but be a dreamy person with a beloved person, which you will certainly meet (if not ...), if you do not rely on the ideals described in fiction.